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I've started to become friends with a guy from work. I'm 22 years old, and he's 39 years old.
His wife and kids are in another state right now. He worked for the company before, but about a year ago he moved. Well, he has come back, and he's been trying to get another house here, so they can come back home.
We go out to lunch maybe once a week, if we have time to spare during the day. It's pleasant and a nice break during the work day.
He's said that he enjoys talking to me. He will let me know sometimes that I look nice , but never anything crude. Just being friendly.
He's playful and will toss paper balls at me, or when he's walking by me he'll tickle my back/sides. Or playfully scare me.
We text maybe a few times a week. Usually around 6pm-10/11pm
We talk on the phone after work a few times a week as well.
This past Friday we had off from work due to the 4th of July Holiday, but he called me Friday evening around 8pm, He asked if I was busy, did I have time to talk? He said that he has great news about the house and he wanted to tell me first. I congratulated him and he said the house needs some work and I offered to help. He said great, he could use the help. Then we talked for an hour or so.
He said he doesn't have any friends, well he does - but they're all rednecks who aren't any good, and he only has his family. And he misses them. He talks about his kids all the time. He never really talks about his wife, our last conversation was the first time he mentioned her but he said something like "You better not tell my wife that I wear collared shirts! She thinks I'm turning into a pretty boy." I said "I'm going to tell her!" "No! That's just going to give her more ammunition, she's already got ammo and fires off at me like a machine gun"
Something like that.
Anyway. I want to make sure that it's okay for us to be friends. I've got lots of friends but could always use more!
I've just never had one that's married and older before. I always hear how guys won't talk to a girl they don't want to sleep with. But I don't believe that. Plus he's married and loves his family. Two people can be "just be friends". At least I can.
I thought I'd check in with you guys and see what you think!
No. His wife is in another state right now. He should be calling her, not you. Don't start any kind of relationship with a married man, this never ends well. I think you KNOW what he really wants...
Nothing good can come from this. There is no need to conduct yourself this way with a coworker, let alone a married man. Go hang out with one of your numerous other friends instead.
I think OP could be clueless, but he knows very well what he is doing. He is lonely, bored, horny and stupid. He is playing with fire risking losing his wife and his job.
OP, would you approve his action if he were YOUR husband?
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