My GF has a career in an area that I do not want to live in...

[Katnan]

You're talking NY and NJ as if they're Iowa and NJ. You can go to the beach every weekend if you want if it's only "60-90 minutes from where you are now".

[VanHalen5150]

Move to Florida, where you can buy a home for 1/3 of the price you can in NY/NJ, no state income tax, real beaches (not those crappy NJ beaches where trash and needles wash ashore, and you can actually USE them 9 months out of the year... and schools are always hiring and it's easy to transfer the certs

[Shaolin Shadowboxing]

Originally Posted by Liberty2011

You're talking NY and NJ as if they're Iowa and NJ. You can go to the beach every weekend if you want if it's only "60-90 minutes from where you are now".

that's not the ONLY reason i dislike where we live

[Shaolin Shadowboxing]

Originally Posted by redguard57

Teaching jobs are hard to get, contrary to what the people on this site say. It is NOT easy to relocate. My local district gets scores of apps for one position - sometimes over 100. If you want to move to my town and teach in our school district you'd better know someone who knows someone.

I'm in education so I know how it feels - especially when you score that first position - the thought of giving up the one-ring that you worked so hard to attain is not a happy thought.

After a few years when she gets some experience she may feel more confident in moving on.... but she may not. If this is a problem I would make a break now - this will only cause increasing conflict.

i agree its not easy to move. which is why i said i had no problem staying a couple of years and would NEVER insist she move for something that she didn't want.

i just want her to be open to it.