What is the definition of a porn addiction? (movies, man, cheat)
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Sorry. I got confused from another thread. But men are wired up differently. It's like for years, I only wanted female dogs for pets... two years ago, I feel sorry for two male dogs at a shelter. Of course they are fixed, and I've gotten used to them lifting their legs in the yard to mark territory... but probably I will go back to having only female dogs later on. lol
Hypothetically speaking, if it turns out that he *is* simply watching this on occasion, doesn't spend too much money on it, and lavishes all of his affection on you, will you be okay with it?
No, there are no guarantees that it won't become an issue, but say it's in moderation now...
I am asking you this because it seems, from what you have said, that that's pretty much your situation now. If it's something that you absolutely cannot deal with, you have a tough choice to make because, as we all know, asking for (or expecting) change is very often a recipe for disaster.
Obviously, I watch porn, and have no issues with it when it's used as just another "sexual aid". So, taking that into account, *can* you deal with him watching porn, or writing about it in the moderate situation I mentioned above?
If not, as hard as it is, it's time for the "goodbye, God bless" scenario. I've seen, way too often, the resentment that breeds when someone *says* that they can handle something, but in actuality, cannot. "If you loved me, you would stop doing this thing that I said was okay before, but isn't anymore...".
I wish you the best, and sympathize about how hard this situation must be. But, do remember, the VAST majority of people who watch porn are in no way, shape or form "addicted" to it.
3-4 weeks is normal. If its not comfy for you, move on. Otherwise, you can't expect to change someone's habits and preferences.
I have to agree with SmerkyGrl on this one. Most woman enter into a relationship with less information regarding a new boyfriend's porn viewing habits. If it's bothering you now, you'll always be wondering if he's looking at porn when he's not with you.
well let me put it this way,most of us guys (I think) (can only speak for myself but) need to get off almost daily and not all of us have a steady.....and we guys need visual stimulation,so watching it a few times a week is because we need to get off several times a week....at least me.
Yep,when I have had a steady I concentrated more on her so I was less inclinded to bother.
So if your friend isn't getting laid on a steady basis what do you expect?Personally I have hardly ever been able to just use my mind in fantasy to relieve myself,I need visual stimulation,guys are based on visual stimulation...you ladies should know that.
So he sounds normal to me,pop in a vid or bring up a photo,spell relief,go to sleep,wake up and go to work the next day and start it all over again.
I have a friend who views porn three or four times a week. I think that's a lot. He seems to think it's no big deal (of course!). He wants to get further involved with me, but I'm pretty sure this issue is a deal breaker. I should probably at least get more information, like how much time he really spends on this, if he spends any money, etc. Other than this issue, he's very nice, and we've been friends for over 15 years. I value my fellow C-D members' opinions, so what do you guys think?
i wouldnt consider that a problem at all
he is prob viewing it right b4 he "destresses". no dif from a woman reading one of her romance novels.
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i wouldnt consider that a problem at all
he is prob viewing it right b4 he "destresses". no dif from a woman reading one of her romance novels.
Funniest thing I've read all day.
Direct me to one book that would set off a physiological reaction, redirect blood throughout my body and require a shower afterward and I'll run right out and get it, as long as Chris Hansen doesn't pop out from behind the magazine section!
Direct me to one book that would set off a physiological reaction, redirect blood throughout my body and require a shower afterward and I'll run right out and get it, as long as Chris Hansen doesn't pop out from behind the magazine section!
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