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I have yet to go on a date with a guy and NOT have him attempt to get me out on another. I don't know if all of these men felt sparks, or what. I know I didn't, with most of them.
I cannot even explain this anymore, I thought I knew, but apparently not.
The friend- MASSIVE sparks, and big disappointments. Even after being let down repeatedly in several ways, I didn't want to give up. I have finally did. We are functioning much better as friends now.
OKC date #1: Great intellectual connection. But he had bad teeth and I sensed he wants, deep down, a new Mommy for his young kids. Nope.
(No sparks for me.)
OKC date #2: Our online talks were hot, but he was super twitchy and nervous and overwhelmed me with the details about his comic book preferences and the complex dice systems of some of his roleplaying games. I love nerds. He out-nerded me though.
(No sparks for me in person, only online.)
OKC...whatever...#3: Unplanned encounter at a social gathering, but we'd talked a little bit online. He was really drunk that night. Haven't seen him since.
(Slight physical attraction in person, none in talking/online.)
OKC date #4: Saw him 3 times before he moved out of state. He was into something I wanted help exploring and had a good reputation, not a love interest, but I did appreciate his willingness to share some specialized abilities with me. Learned a thing or two.
(I like & respect him but no sparks, we aren't made for each other.)
OKC date #5: Like the guy, but after first date had no time to see him again for a bit, and some instinct has held me back from making contact again.
(Sparks: yes...plenty...just hesitating for some reason, I'm not even sure why.)
OKC date #6: I flaked, found out something scary about him before possible meeting occurred.
OKC date #7: Lucky Seven... He is not what I usually consider "attractive." He did however engage me with his mind and his conversation. There are several significant incompatibilities, yet there are things about him that drew me and things about me that drew him. And my gut simply said, "Yes. Today is the day, and this is the man. Go for it." And then I found out exactly why I would be wanting to see him again, and again. I'm still trying to figure out how I knew or what it was that got me to let it get to that point...I've got guys in my life asking me for advice with OLD and I cannot tell them what it was about this one that he succeeded where others didn't. It was not so much sparks, as a firework I am not sure is lit, that then blows up in my face when I least expect it.
Did this girl expect sparks? I don't know. I just followed my instincts. *shrug*
SOME GIRLS ARE GETTING FIREWORKS?!!!! Son of a.......
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the same reason they want the white picket fence, spend their entire lives dreaming about their wedding day, are willing to spend $50,000 on ONE day...
they are sold an idea, a romanticized idea, that just is not true...or very rarely true...thank you hallmark, helzburg diamonds, and lifetime tv....
the same reason they want the white picket fence, spend their entire lives dreaming about their wedding day, are willing to spend $50,000 on ONE day...
they are sold an idea, a romanticized idea, that just is not true...or very rarely true...thank you hallmark, helzburg diamonds, and lifetime tv....
ok...tell me how most young single women grow up with realistic expectations on marriage and happily ever after...also please tell me what planet I might find these women on...
ok...tell me how most young single women grow up with realistic expectations on marriage and happily ever after...also please tell me what planet I might find these women on...
You paint women very poorly.
Most people know that marriage is not easy.
You paint women very poorly.
Most people know that marriage is not easy.
agreed...I have prefaced before that I am newly separated
I paint the whole marriage industry as poor moreso than women
men buy into stupid marketing crap as well...we are all human after all
This is extremely unlikely. Life isn't like the movies.
Probably for the same reason a lot of guys do. And fyi, a lot of girls don't expect fireworks on the first date, depending on the venue. They're only expecting to get to know the guy a little, to see if there's any point in going to a 2nd date.
I never went in expecting fireworks for every date. However, I have experienced "fireworks" before the first real date and on first dates on multiple occasions. I knew there was something going on well before the first date.
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