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Old 01-23-2008, 10:10 PM
 
Location: Too far from the beach, NJ
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Do you feel your SO should wake up with you to handle your nightmare with you?

If you have a bad dream, should he/she be annoyed to be waken up?

Or, should he/she wake up to comfort you?
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Old 01-23-2008, 10:16 PM
 
Location: California
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I think it's just a dream, I don't think anyone should put that much thought into it. If I woke my wife up every time I had a bad dream neither of us would get much sleep.
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Old 01-23-2008, 10:19 PM
 
Location: Abington, PA
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i agree, being the fact both me and my fiancee are grumpy when we first wake up, this would be a dangerous act. lol

I'd wait till the next day to tell your partner and let them comfort you....you know, after everyone's had their coffee, lol.
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Old 01-23-2008, 11:32 PM
 
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Why would I want to wake him up to tell him about my nightmare? If he is sleeping peacefully, more power to him. I know it's just a bad dream, so I don't need for him to tell me that. I can tell myself that it was just a nightmare and to go back to sleep. If I'm that upset, I can get up and watch tv, or get on the computer, etc. No need for him to lose sleep over it too.
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Old 01-24-2008, 04:21 AM
 
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If my SO had a disturbing dream, I would want her to wake me to discuss it and comfort her. It is not always possible for a lot of people to recall their dreams except just after awaking from them.

Dreams are a way for our subconcious to process things (thoughts, worries, issues) left undone by the concious. I myself have very, very vivid dreams and always have except during certain medications (perscribed!). Some people can actually alter the outcome of their dreams i.e. knowing they are dreaming and choosing a different door to open, if you will.

I would ask your SO if he would mind if you woke hem should a bad dream come about again. Good luck and good night.
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Old 01-24-2008, 06:13 AM
 
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Maybe when you have a nightmare it's your subconscious telling you that you need to fix stress you might be having.
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Old 01-24-2008, 07:41 AM
 
Location: the show-me state
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Well, I really never seem to have nightmares myself. Although I did have trouble sleeping back when that "saggy toes" thread was on here. THAT one had me quite upset! My fiance calls me whenever, about whatever. In fact, I had a thread about that. She has never woke me up about a bad dream, but if she did, it wouldn't upset me. I would comfort her til she went back to sleep, then I would go back to sleep. Unless, of course, I happened to comfort her so well, she decided upon something MUCH better than sleep.
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Old 01-24-2008, 07:42 AM
 
Location: Missouri Ozarks
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My s/o is grumpy if he has to be woken up so what I nrmally do if I have a bad dream is put my arm around him for a few minutes.
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Old 01-24-2008, 08:40 AM
 
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Do you feel your SO should wake up with you to handle your nightmare with you?

If you have a bad dream, should he/she be annoyed to be waken up?

Or, should he/she wake up to comfort you?
What? If you're an adult and have a nightmare, tell yourself it was a bad dream and go back to sleep.
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Old 01-24-2008, 08:57 AM
 
Location: friendswood texas
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I usually wake my husband up if I have a really intense bad dream. I have had some majorly bad ones where I've dreamed someone close to me has died and the dreams are so vivid I just couldn't shake it. He doesn't seem to mind giving comfort. Now if I woke up every night he would probably be a tad upset but the occasional one he doesn't seem to mind.
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