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That's sort of insulting then to the person in the relationship that the body parts are the only reason they would leave.
It's like men who are with women just for their "body" and they dump her when she gains too much weight or goes gray or gets wrinkles. Those people are more interested in "bodies" and "parts" than the person or the relationship.
But for straight people and gay people and bi people in long term relationships (yes we are all the same in this regard), intimacy in a long term relationship is generally about far more than body parts and equipment. As uncomfortable or improbable as that may seem for people to grasp....relationships between any two people, regardless of gender preference, present the same challenges, pitfalls, joys, and rewards.
If we reduce people to their biology alone we cast the relationship in a really superficial light.
It's like saying all women are interchangeable because we all have the same parts! That's insulting.
Besides, anytime someone leaves their partner....whether it's for someone younger, prettier, more money, fewer problems....it's not about what that other person "has or doesn't have"....it's a symptom the relationship is not working.
In no way was I meaning to insult anyone. I stated that in an earlier post. I am aware that body parts are not the only reason to leave or stay together.
If anyone knows that, trust me, it is me.
I am only touching on the fact that one cannot provide ohh...
I have said it about three times.
The kind of relationship that the other may feel the need for, when they do not have what it takes to do so.
I know that there is a whole seperate aspect of a relationship, love honor trust, everything...
I am only referring to this part, because it is the part that I know cannot be provided.
My thought on being a female and being bi-- LOL- either way I am gettin' Laid.. in funny terms. either your bi or your not, kinda like sushi either you like it or you dont, and you pretty much know the first time you try it, its NOT something you grow into.
So men, if your woman does try it for your sake and comes back afterwards, and says its NOT for her, then be happy she tried it and let it go. Unlike the myth.. NOT all women are BI, and NO!they are not BI and just dont know it and need to give it more time!
Because if that was the case, then most men are bi and just dont know it. LOL.
Being bi isnt a standard or a moral code or anything, its simply who someone is, and since I think that people who are not bi or gay or whatever the orientation may be, do have a right to a personal opinion, however, with that said, they dont have the right to demoralize, spout insults or otherwise be intolerant to someone else's way sexual preference, or try and make thier opinion more important.
Wow. Straight people are really insecure! They can't seem to seperate orientation from action and are scared to wits that they can't satisfy their partner.
Dang!
I am sooooo glad I'm gay! (Actually I'm bi, but I prefer men -- if the right woman comes along..ya never know. I was married for many years, I didn't leave her for another man though..surprise!!!)
Wow. Straight people are really insecure! They can't seem to seperate orientation from action and are scared to wits that they can't satisfy their partner.
Dang!
I am sooooo glad I'm gay! (Actually I'm bi, but I prefer men -- if the right woman comes along..ya never know. I was married for many years, I didn't leave her for another man though..surprise!!!)
I disagree with you. I am straight and am totally secure about my own sexual orientation. Given that we are strangers, you can believe my statement or not but I happen to know that I satisfy my husband and vice versa. Yes, there are times when people overreact to sexual news, i.e. the article which prompted this thread, but it's a forum...we discuss things. I have gay friends who seem insecure about their orientation as well...I believe insecurity isn't biased...it creeps into people of all orientations -- straight, gay, bi, transgender, whatever.
Hey I may be straight...but at least I know what I am! Seems to me the bi types are the ones confused about orientation.
A person self-identifying as bi has nothing to do with confusion of any kind, they know what they want. It seems to be some people have trouble accepting, believing, or understanding that.
It's like pick your two favorite meals: say it's prime rib.....and lobster.....and you like them both. Some people only want one or the other. But to say that someone who likes both lobster and prime rib, thinks they're both delicious, is "confused about their food preferences"....!!!! LOL Yes, it's that simple.
And in general, the people who identify as gay or bisexual, have a lot more sense of "who they are" than those folks who figure "everyone is straight", because they have done far more soul-searching and inner work to be able to make that statement.
It's like pick your two favorite meals: say it's prime rib.....and lobster.....and you like them both. Some people only want one or the other. But to say that someone who likes both lobster and prime rib, thinks they're both delicious, is "confused about their food preferences"....!!!! LOL Yes, it's that simple.
Anyway,...bisexual people are not confused, in any way that straight or gay people are not confused. There's no confusion: bisexual people like both men and women. It doesn't necessarily mean that such individual sleeps with or slept with men and/or women.
So, a virgin could be bisexual, and not confused. It has no bearing on who that person has been with, or who they will be with. That person may be with only one person their entire life, yet still identify as bisexual, and be satisfied with that.
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I have gay friends who seem insecure about their orientation as well...I believe insecurity isn't biased...it creeps into people of all orientations -- straight, gay, bi, transgender, whatever.
