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I just texted him asking hypothetically how he'd feel if I got a surprise nose job one day.
His response:
"Lol oh boy...you would be in big trouble if you ever did that."
Luckily I'm not home yet, otherwise he'd probably pinch the crap out of me for saying that (in a semi-playful way, but sometimes it kinda hurts). Hopefully he'll forget I asked that by the time I get home.
The bolded things don't sound right. What's with the threats and pinching? He sounds borderline abusive.
I just texted him asking hypothetically how he'd feel if I got a surprise nose job one day.
His response:
"Lol oh boy...you would be in big trouble if you ever did that."
Luckily I'm not home yet, otherwise he'd probably pinch the crap out of me for saying that (in a semi-playful way, but sometimes it kinda hurts). Hopefully he'll forget I asked that by the time I get home.
You don't need a new nose-- you need a new husband.
Seriously, OP get to counseling and get emotionally strong enough to leave this controller. Your others posts are alarming. There is much more at stake here than your contemplation of cosmetic fixes.
As far as a new nose shape, I know several women who have had this done. It dramatically changed their appearance in a very good way.
I just texted him asking hypothetically how he'd feel if I got a surprise nose job one day.
His response:
"Lol oh boy...you would be in big trouble if you ever did that."
Luckily I'm not home yet, otherwise he'd probably pinch the crap out of me for saying that (in a semi-playful way, but sometimes it kinda hurts). Hopefully he'll forget I asked that by the time I get home.
Interestingly, no revisiting of this thread by the OP.
I'm here. Honestly I think I've made him sound a lot worse than he really is. He's a worrier, and is always paranoid about something happening to me. He's made comments that if he ever lost me, he'd shoot himself in the head. And having talked a bit about it to him last night, he says he's also worried about me undergoing any unnecessary surgery. He says when we have kids, he's going to be equally protective of them. He's like this even with his parents (pouring out all their beer in their house because he didn't approve). So he's just like that. Maybe he'll even chill out with me once we have kids since he should be focused on them rather than on me.
Funny thing is, we've been married for over a year, but he wasn't like this at all before marriage. In fact, "no pressure" was practically his catchphrase, lol. He seemed like the most nonchalant and hands-off person ever. Then he started changing the minute we got married. If only I had all the money for the surgery saved up back then!
But he also wants me to "look after" him as well. Lol a few nights ago we were shopping and he uncharacteristically put a bag of candy in the cart. To play along, I said "no" and put the candies back. And he seemed so happy I did that lol. If he was legitimately a control-freak, he wouldn't have tolerated that. He'd only want it to be one-sided.
Last edited by ohhwanderlust; 07-24-2015 at 02:51 PM..
I'm here. Honestly I think I've made him sound a lot worse than he really is. He's a worrier, and is always paranoid about something happening to me. He's made comments that if he ever lost me, he'd shoot himself in the head. And having talked a bit about it to him last night, he says he's also worried about me undergoing any unnecessary surgery. He says when we have kids, he's going to be equally protective of them. He's like this even with his parents (pouring out all their beer in their house because he didn't approve). So he's just like that.
Funny thing is, we've been married for over a year, but he wasn't like this at all before marriage. In fact, "no pressure" was practically his catchphrase, lol. He seemed like the most nonchalant and hands-off person ever. Then he did a 180 the minute we got married. If only I had all the money for the surgery saved up back then!
It's one thing to be a worrier from time to time, a whole different thing to be constantly paranoid.
Also the previous post you wrote about him pinching you, umm no that's not ok! The only time he should be putting his hands on you should be in a loving way, not to hurt you (and you said that sometimes it does hurt). I can understand a playful nudge or something, but if he is intentionally trying to physically cause you pain, you have a problem on your hands way bigger than him not being on board with your nose job.
He's made comments that if he ever lost me, he'd shoot himself in the head.
I think you should know that the examples you give make him sound worse.
Comments like this one above aren't romantic; they're vaguely threatening and on the list of signs of verbal abuse.
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