Does this also happen to anyone else? (marriage, girls, love)
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The thing is, I do attract guys but I am not interested in the ones that approach me or ask me out .I have had 2 guys ask me out at work but I wasn't interested or attracted to either of them. The other one is still is still interested as far as I know. Yesterday he came to use a machine beside me at the gym. He told me that he still wants me and that he will wait for me. He seems like a decent guy but I feel nothing towards him. I don't want to agree to go out with him and have to break it off if my feelings don't change...especially since we are colleagues
On the other hand, I had a big crush on someone from work who I thought liked me back. He never made a move and it turned out he has live in gf.
I also get approach sometimes outside work but the ones that do are not my cup of tea. Some of them are much older and there is zero attraction. It seems like the ones that I want don't want me but the ones that I want me, don`t want them.When I met my ex,there was an instant connection and fire. You know when you meet someone and there is chemistry and it feels like love at first sight ?So If I don't feel that way towards someone at the first sight ,I disregard them
Am I just being too picky ? should I just give the ones that approach me a chance even if though there is no initial attraction?
.When I met my ex,there was an instant connection and fire. You know when you meet someone and there is chemistry and it feels like love at first sight ?So If I don't feel that way towards someone at the first sight ,I disregard them:
This is a mistake. The absence of "love at first sight" doesn't mean anything. Someone's personality could really come out and make a difference on a couple of dates. Presumably, though, you've already had a chance to gauge the personality of the two guys at work, so probably, going out with them wouldn't change anything. But that doesn't mean you should turn everyone down who doesn't cause a spark when you first set eyes on them.
"Love at first sight" can really lead you astray, too. It can cause you to overlook major signs that they're really not right for you.
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I have been single for more than a year
The thing is, I do attract guys but I am not interested in the ones that approach me or ask me out .I have had 2 guys ask me out at work but I wasn't interested or attracted to either of them. The other one is still is still interested as far as I know. Yesterday he came to use a machine beside me at the gym. He told me that he still wants me and that he will wait for me. He seems like a decent guy but I feel nothing towards him. I don't want to agree to go out with him and have to break it off if my feelings don't change...especially since we are colleagues
On the other hand, I had a big crush on someone from work who I thought liked me back. He never made a move and it turned out he has live in gf.
I also get approach sometimes outside work but the ones that do are not my cup of tea. Some of them are much older and there is zero attraction. It seems like the ones that I want don't want me but the ones that I want me, don`t want them.When I met my ex,there was an instant connection and fire. You know when you meet someone and there is chemistry and it feels like love at first sight ?So If I don't feel that way towards someone at the first sight ,I disregard them
Am I just being too picky ? should I just give the ones that approach me a chance even if though there is no initial attraction?
I don't think you should waste time for attraction that just ain't there. You ain't required to give someone a chance just because they approach you. I get approached only by ugly girls, I feel your pain.
I don't think you should waste time for attraction that just ain't there. You ain't required to give someone a chance just because they approach you. I get approached only by ugly girls, I feel your pain.
You are right...one isn't required to give anyone the time of day....but rejecting everyone just because you can isn't smart either.
We broke up because of the distance and neither of us was in place to relocate. He ended up meeting someone closer to him
Then it wasn't really that strong a love now was it? Why is that feeling of infatuation your standard without even bothering to get to know others that might be more the slow fire that lasts longer rather than the flash in the pan?
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. I don't want to agree to go out with him and have to break it off if my feelings don't change...especially since we are colleagues
