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How would you feel if your significant other was talking to their good friend of the opposite sex more than they talk to you? Would you think anything of it? Oh and to top it off, let's say the friend of the opposite sex is in a serious relationship or married, and both of you (you and your s/o live with them until you can get on your feet and get a place of your own) Would you think anything of it? Is living under their roof a justifiable reason to talk to the good friend more than your own partner? Ultimately, would that be a deal breaker for you?
One thing women sense is when their men have existing or potential emotionally intimate relationships with other. We are extremely perceptive about these things. And when we sense it, it's a problem.
OP, instead of talking in "let's say" and "what ifs," why don't you be completely direct about what's bothering you? Moreover, if this is the situation with your significant other, why not be honest with him and let him know?
Boundaries should be set, if they haven't been already. Friendships with non familial members of the opposite sex are fine, but emotional intimacy (which almost always may have or will lead to something else), is a huge issue.
One thing women sense is when their men have existing or potential emotionally intimate relationships with other. We are extremely perceptive about these things. And when we sense it, it's a problem.
OP, instead of talking in "let's say" and "what ifs," why don't you be completely direct about what's bothering you? Moreover, if this is the situation with your significant other, why not be honest with him and let him know?
Boundaries should be set, if they haven't been already. Friendships with non familial members of the opposite sex are fine, but emotional intimacy (which almost always may have or will lead to something else), is a huge issue.
Talk to him.
It's someone I know who is going through this. She wonders if she is crazy for feeling the way she does. She explained that when she did bring it to his attention, his response was "We're in her house" and basically calls her jealous and the opposite sex says the same thing and has gotten way too comfortable and involved in their relationship to where she has said that she feels like she has no right to her own relationship since she lives under her and her husband's roof and have nowhere else to go right now.
How would you feel if your significant other was talking to their good friend of the opposite sex more than they talk to you? Would you think anything of it? Oh and to top it off, let's say the friend of the opposite sex is in a serious relationship or married, and both of you (you and your s/o live with them until you can get on your feet and get a place of your own) Would you think anything of it? Is living under their roof a justifiable reason to talk to the good friend more than your own partner? Ultimately, would that be a deal breaker for you?
A dealbreaker to me would be mooching off my friends, not about whether my boyfriend was talking to me.
A dealbreaker to me would be mooching off my friends, not about whether my boyfriend was talking to me.
If you're referring to someone that I know that's in a relationship, she isn't mooching off of anyone. She's trying to get out of there and get on her own. He, however has been staying there a lot longer than she has and they both pay rent to stay there. Now that that point has been established, can you answer the original question?
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