I cheated on my husband (marriage, man, love, cheating)
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Last week I cheated on my husband. I've been feeling neglected lately and that's why I did it. I know it's wrong but I was feeling unwanted. How do I deal with this? Shall I keep it to myself or shall I tell him and hope that he forgives me?
I am not judging you for doing this. I understand that feelings of neglect and loneliness are compelling things to cheat.
I have experience with how cheating breaks apart relationships. My father cheated on my mother and it broke their marriage apart. I think that honesty is always the best way to handle a situation like this. If he forgives you then try your hardest to communicate before you feel like you need to cheat again. Honestly, if you aren't happy with just him being in your life there is a problem. Just tell him the truth and things will work out like they are supposed to. Even if he doesn't forgive you, do you really deserve forgiveness if you actually have to think about building your relationship around this major betrayal?
I'm not judging you either, but I would respectfully disagree with Blondie's advance. Do not confess. This may ease your guilty conscience but will accomplish nothing else except to cause your husband pain. As it says in the Bible, "Go and sin no more." Then try to fix whatever may be wrong with your marriage that caused you to cheat in the first place. If you tell him anything, just say that you've been feeling neglected and unwanted lately. Good luck to you, and thank you for being so honest.
Beg his forgiveness, if you want to stay with your husband, but realize that even if he stays with you, from this point on your every move will be scrutinized. And rightly so since you broke the trust, it will have to be earned back.
I'm not judging you either, but I would respectfully disagree with Blondie's advance. Do not confess. This may ease your guilty conscience but will accomplish nothing else except to cause your husband pain. As it says in the Bible, "Go and sin no more." Then try to fix whatever may be wrong with your marriage that caused you to cheat in the first place. If you tell him anything, just say that you've been feeling neglected and unwanted lately. Good luck to you, and thank you for being so honest.
and if he finds out on his own, that advise makes things worse.
Do what you'd want him to do were the roles reversed. Do exactly that.
I'm sure you would not tolerate your man cheating on you (but in your case you were 'neglected', so it's perfectly justified, right?).
If you choose to keep your secret, always refer back to it mentally whenever you feel like giving your man a hard time for whatever reason ('he wants to go fishing with the guys, but I don't want him to...wait, I screwed another guy behind his back...okay, he can go fishing').
I wonder why you ask us? you knew that is wrong and you still did it. And now you want us to tell what to do? Have you ever thought to let your husband know how you feel? Before you go and jump on cheating? Well it is your life not mine but I think you better tell your husband before he hear from the neighbor that you have going cheating him. That can bring up violence situations and I am sure that is not what you want. All the best
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