If all women are trying to date "up", then wouldn't some women be forced to date "down"? (married, kids)

[UrbanAdventurer]

Originally Posted by hawaiiancoconut

So, women are dating down because of a mans low financial value?

Yes

[UrbanAdventurer]

Originally Posted by Ms.Mathlete

I'm wondering the same thing . Never really thought about, to be honest; I just dated whomever I was interested in and attracted to.

Who to be attracted to is largely an unconscious decision prompted by biology, such as falling asleep or getting hungry. It requires no overt thought.

[Mikala43]

Less theories and more experience please.

[MoonBeam33]

Yes, ALL women. Just keep repeating it to yourself: "All women are the same all women are the same all women are the same..."

Sure beats having to think.

[Dewdroplet76]

Originally Posted by 1orlando

I think this whole dating up or down is a bunch of nonsense. To me that is subjective to who is looking at it. We are all human beings. We are not houses or cars where you pay more to have more options. It is all based on opinions.

I agree. And to be honest, both people should feel like they dated up! My husband and I both feel that way - although we like to tease each other and say that we both dated down! Haha!

Originally Posted by Mikala43

Less theories and more experience please.

Pretty much!

[Ginge McFantaPants]

Originally Posted by UrbanAdventurer

Who to be attracted to is largely an unconscious decision prompted by biology, such as falling asleep or getting hungry. It requires no overt thought.

Definitely. But even thinking objectively about past relationships, I still can't say if I dated up or down, because I wouldn't really have a frame of reference, kwim? For all I know, I might have been someone's downgrade

[AlfredB1979]

Originally Posted by FycBST2

I always hear that women should NOT settle and date "below" them right?

Since women are trying to date up and above them, and of course each woman can only marry 1 man....

Then by nature of simple mathematics and statistics, eventually some women would have to really settle?


And to further prove my stance: I hear a lot of the older women say that all the men they are interested in are taken.

So basically that means, some of the women have succeeded in dating "up" and thus, other women are forced, by nature of statistics, to date down.

LOL, no. Like mentioned the other day about how people love more options, well, that tends to make them wide-eyed and get brain freeze. They wait...and wait...and wait...and end up as cat owners.

As shown below, a women who possibly has options won't have to settle. Granted, she better be on her game, because guys who are on their game can be picky when it comes to commitment. Thirsty vagina chasers? Well, nobody likes them.

Originally Posted by MissmamaAnnie

I will not settle ...I enjoy being single more than I do settling for a man I lack the spark with...I am not looking a male model or a mufti-millionaire or a brad pitt (or whoever the standard is now...chris hemsworth??) look alike

The just have to be a strong MUTUAL Chemistry with a person who is also COMPATIBLE and moreover, SINGLE.which is hard to find

In any event, who settled here?

He is head of the world's biggest family - and says he is 'blessed' to have his 39 wives.

Ziona Chana also has 94 children, 14-daughters-in-law and 33 grandchildren.

They live in a 100-room, four storey house set amidst the hills of Baktwang village in the Indian state of Mizoram, where the wives sleep in giant communal dormitories.

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[Butterflyfish]

I personally think the OKC study about 20% of men being attractive is generous. Those OKC women must be really thirsty.

[Butterflyfish]

Originally Posted by FycBST2

I always hear that women should NOT settle and date "below" them right?

Sn are trying to date up and above them, and of course each woman can only marry 1 man....

Then by nature of simple mathematics and statistics, eventually some women would have to really settle?


And to further prove my stance: I hear a lot of the older women say that all the men they are interested in are taken.

So basically that means, some of the women have succeeded in dating "up" and thus, other women are forced, by nature of statistics, to date down.

I think history will show that women prefer to share a good man than settle for a subpar speciman. Your math only works if it were one man with one woman, which isn't really how it works out, if you look at history and culture.

I've read that 1 in 200 men in the world today are direct descedants of Genghis Khan.

[Chowhound]

Originally Posted by Butterflyfish

I think history will show that women prefer to share a good man than settle for a subpar speciman. Your math only works if it were one man with one woman, which isn't really how it works out, if you look at history and culture.

I've read that 1 in 200 men in the world today are direct descedants of Genghis Khan.

I was at the mall recently and I had some serious Mongolian......aka Genghis Khan style....

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