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I met my boyfriend on OkCupid in Feburary. We exchanged phone calls for a month until we finally met and we instantly clicked and had an amazing connection. The problem was that there were a few odds against us that I guess we both should have been more prepared for.
-I'm 21 and he's 26 (turning 27 next month)
-He was my first real boyfriend/relationship
-I'm finishing up school in a different state than we both live in
-He's a third mate on a tug boat and works on the sea 6 months out of the year (1 month home, 1 month at sea)
We were aware of these factors going into the relationship but we were so head over heels for each other we went for it anyway. Long story short, he broke up with me this past Friday and I'm wondering if there's anyway I can ever get him back because there's never been anyone I've ever dated that I've liked more than him. He was a great boyfriend but unfortunately we argued too much which was mostly my fault because I'm naive with relationships and took advantage of him at times. I would snap at him for no reason and give him the silent treatment for no reason and it was stuff like that that really pushed him away. I told him I want to change but he said it's too late and he needs time to himself to get himself back together but there is still a possibility that we could date in the future.
He came over my house last night to talk with me and give me closure. We are still very affectionate to one another and kept apologizing to each other a million times. He feels horrible for breaking my heart because we both thought this relationship was going to last so much longer. We cuddled in bed and had sex this morning which I didn't plan on..it just happened. I think maybe we're both still attached. He told me that I'm a beautiful, smart and wonderful girl and that maybe if we werent both at different stages of our lives this relationship would work. He wants to come over again tonight to keep me company while my parents are out of town. I mentioned him possibly coming to school in September to see me after he works all of August and he agreed he wants to do that.
He leaves for work next week and I plan on not contacting him the entire 28 days so maybe he will have time to miss me.
I'm just grieving right now that this is all over. Does anyone have any advice or think there is a chance at us getting back together?
I met my boyfriend on OkCupid in Feburary. We exchanged phone calls for a month until we finally met and we instantly clicked and had an amazing connection. The problem was that there were a few odds against us that I guess we both should have been more prepared for.
-I'm 21 and he's 26 (turning 27 next month)
-He was my first real boyfriend/relationship
-I'm finishing up school in a different state than we both live in
-He's a third mate on a tug boat and works on the sea 6 months out of the year (1 month home, 1 month at sea)
We were aware of these factors going into the relationship but we were so head over heels for each other we went for it anyway. Long story short, he broke up with me this past Friday and I'm wondering if there's anyway I can ever get him back because there's never been anyone I've ever dated that I've liked more than him. He was a great boyfriend but unfortunately we argued too much which was mostly my fault because I'm naive with relationships and took advantage of him at times. I would snap at him for no reason and give him the silent treatment for no reason and it was stuff like that that really pushed him away. I told him I want to change but he said it's too late and he needs time to himself to get himself back together but there is still a possibility that we could date in the future.
He came over my house last night to talk with me and give me closure. We are still very affectionate to one another and kept apologizing to each other a million times. He feels horrible for breaking my heart because we both thought this relationship was going to last so much longer. We cuddled in bed and had sex this morning which I didn't plan on..it just happened. I think maybe we're both still attached. He told me that I'm a beautiful, smart and wonderful girl and that maybe if we werent both at different stages of our lives this relationship would work. He wants to come over again tonight to keep me company while my parents are out of town. I mentioned him possibly coming to school in September to see me after he works all of August and he agreed he wants to do that.
He leaves for work next week and I plan on not contacting him the entire 28 days so maybe he will have time to miss me.
I'm just grieving right now that this is all over. Does anyone have any advice or think there is a chance at us getting back together?
In February?
Which one of the guys is this? Because you were posting here in April, all sad about a couple of guys from OKC.
I met my boyfriend on OkCupid in Feburary. We exchanged phone calls for a month until we finally met and we instantly clicked and had an amazing connection. The problem was that there were a few odds against us that I guess we both should have been more prepared for.
-I'm 21 and he's 26 (turning 27 next month)
Sorry about your breakup, OP, but the above doesn't jive with your April thread: I always like the guys that don't like me back.. which went on for pages and pages about a 23-year-old guy from OKCupid who didn't text you back after you went home with him on the first date.
In case you just are off with your timeline, here is some advice.
I do not think you should try to "get him back." I don't think he should come over to "keep you company" tonight, i.e. sleep with you.
Next time you are in a relationship, don't do this:
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Originally Posted by alaskandaisy
I'm naive with relationships and took advantage of him at times.
I would snap at him for no reason and give him the silent treatment for no reason.
I plan on not contacting him the entire 28 days so maybe he will have time to miss me.
That last idea is just pure game playing. Also, be wary of thinking that you "instantly click and have an amazing connection" with anyone because it clouds your judgment.
Until you mature a little more, stick with guys who also are students and living the same general kind of lifestyle you are living.
Sorry about your breakup, OP, but the above doesn't jive with your April thread: I always like the guys that don't like me back.. which went on for pages and pages about a 23-year-old guy from OKCupid who didn't text you back after you went home with him on the first date.
I was dating multiple people during those months. I started seriously dating my now ex not too long after that post. A lot of guys are usually interested in me but I'm picky.
In case you just are off with your timeline, here is some advice.
I do not think you should try to "get him back." I don't think he should come over to "keep you company" tonight, i.e. sleep with you.
Next time you are in a relationship, don't do this:
That last idea is just pure game playing. Also, be wary of thinking that you "instantly click and have an amazing connection" with anyone because it clouds your judgment.
Until you mature a little more, stick with guys who also are students and living the same general kind of lifestyle you are living.
I tend to prefer guys older than me. And yes I'm fully aware of my mistakes in this relationship I was wondering if we still had a chance to get back together.
I tend to prefer guys older than me. And yes I'm fully aware of my mistakes in this relationship I was wondering if we still had a chance to get back together.
It's not working because being in a healthy relationship is hard enough without adding the stress of varying schedules, distance and life experience.
You need time to mature as well as MUCH more experience before you date someone who is on their own.
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