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Originally Posted by mustelid1971
This sounds great. The problem is, for loads of guys, it is useless. Lots of guys (myself included) have hobbies and interests where 90%+ of the people into it are men, or are hobbies done solo.
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Dangit! You nearly had me there. Almost messed up my game.
New drinking game.
(Which I'm not actually playing, because I don't drink and I'm at work, but let's pretend!)
Every time Brantleygilbert uses a numerical statistic in a post, DRINK.
You'll be on the floor in no time!
(Sorry, but there was that one satirical post that had me utterly in stitches and then he comes along with like "90% of my life is perfect" and I'm just dying over here.)
*catches breath*
OK seriously though, I do want to say those pictures are no good. Not because OP is bad looking or whatever, but the best pics reveal a bit of character. Not used car salesman slicky character, but like "hey look, here is me shooting pool!" Or "Check it out, I'm standing on a lamp post!" Action shots, candids...things that show that you're a real dude who does stuff. Especially if they make you look FUN.
The best sets of pics (and I don't feel that one is enough, the more the better really) Show:
1. Person's face, in decent light
2. Overall impression of person's body, again not in concealing light or positioning, so one can get a general concept of your build. No one cares about the details of your body fat or that you are 10% more chiseled now or anything like that. Just "He's not fat." (Or whatever. General impression) Good enough. Moving on.
3. What cut and color your hair is. No beanie hats, guys! If you're bald, come clean with it.
4. Multiple pics, or at least one really good one, of you being fun or doing something fun.
The most successful guy I know in OLD wrote in his profile on OKC, in the "most private thing I'm willing to admit" that he formerly used to lie about his age on his profile, but then shockingly he started meeting all of these kind, beautiful, intelligent women, and approaching dates having to apologize and confess, so he has corrected that now...basically he tucked in there the implication, "I am in demand with women, I date kind, beautiful, intelligent women. Don't you want to be one of them?" Not literally but it is sort of sneakily implied. There is humor blended in, but it's not clowny over the top HAHA THAT'S A FUNNY JOKE humor, it's just sort of subtle self-deprecating snark. And he's got pics of himself playing a guitar onstage, although not his main profile pic.
Oh, and NOWHERE does he say that he is a nice guy. In fact, he says, he's a "scoundrel."
He works in marketing, creating ads for magazines, so I guess I shouldn't be surprised that he can market himself pretty well.
I say this stuff, not because I care about your situation, OP...but because I've only been involved in OLD since about May/June and I still find it pretty interesting. But good luck.
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