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thanks everyone for the good advice. It helps just getting it off my chest really. in reference to the above comment, this would be a fair assumption given the limited details i provided, but let me just say in this case i'm confident this is not just a sales pitch to keep me coming back. It has just been to many things, too overt, too assertive. Also i was in her class off and on for several years and she never paid me much attention. I struck up a conversation with her before a class one time over a common interest, and i think I just got her attention and she was off to the races after that.
How bout you focus on your kids. You will only see them every other weekend. You will not be able to tuck them in at night and they will despise you for leaving. (Mom leaving you because of your cheating)
I frequent a fitness club, and one of the instructors has been openly flirting with me for several months. I am married with kids, and she knows this. I'm not sure what's in her head, but the longer it has gone on, the more i have begun to think she might actually like me. The problem is that she is absolutely gorgeous, very intelligent, and very interesting. The other problem is that i am entering that phase of life where things get a little boring. She has gotten into my head and i think about her a lot. Don't judge me, but part of me wants to flirt back a little. Not responding at all feels a bit like having a winning lottery ticket and losing it. She is about the same age as me, actually a bit older. What is she thinking? How should i respond? If i ignore it, how do i get her out of my head?
Welcome to the game kid,
How you conduct yourself over the next few weeks could be a game changer, be careful and take it in stride, you don't want to lose your family do you? you don't want to hurt your girl? do you ? I don't think your good enough to be with this chick and your wifey at the same time, it takes a certain man to act this way, believe me, don't let this get to your head, I've seen broads like this a thousand times, openly throw themselves all over you only to find out the women as emotional problems and all the weight will fall all over you and take you down, do you really believe you can have a discreet relationship with this woman where you take her out quietly and them have a romp all knight and everything will be peachy while your banging her? and if she is emotional stable and she finds herself being your "comad" (Italian for girl on the side), your going to have to spend at least one or two nights with her a week, I had a beautiful women who is a few years older then me who wanted to be with me and was perfectly fine being my girl on the side? guess what?
she wanted more then just bumping into me and having a drink together, you know why? because I never let her pull me in or down because my girl and our kids is my life, I told her flat out, I said, your beautiful and sweet but so in my girl, we could only be friends and that's it, it feels good that good looking broads want to be with me, but I think the attraction is that I won't , some woman dig this, so keep it has friends and nothing more.
You'll be drama and hassle free, life is good, keep it that way. Just my friendly advice..
My thought was that this flirtation has already went on too long to be one-sided in the first place. The OP is looking for permission to take it to another level by her encouraging her further. Really, there is nothing I can say that already has not been said.
Welcome to the game kid,
How you conduct yourself over the next few weeks could be a game changer, be careful and take it in stride, you don't want to lose your family do you? you don't want to hurt your girl? do you ? I don't think your good enough to be with this chick and your wifey at the same time, it takes a certain man to act this way, believe me, don't let this get to your head, I've seen broads like this a thousand times, openly throw themselves all over you only to find out the women as emotional problems and all the weight will fall all over you and take you down, do you really believe you can have a discreet relationship with this woman where you take her out quietly and them have a romp all knight and everything will be peachy while your banging her? and if she is emotional stable and she finds herself being your "comad" (Italian for girl on the side), your going to have to spend at least one or two nights with her a week, I had a beautiful women who is a few years older then me who wanted to be with me and was perfectly fine being my girl on the side? guess what?
she wanted more then just bumping into me and having a drink together, you know why? because I never let her pull me in or down because my girl and our kids is my life, I told her flat out, I said, your beautiful and sweet but so in my girl, we could only be friends and that's it, it feels good that good looking broads want to be with me, but I think the attraction is that I won't , some woman dig this, so keep it has friends and nothing more.
You'll be drama and hassle free, life is good, keep it that way. Just my friendly advice..
thanks,
Knight
Good advice, i'll take it. Actually i feel like she's cooled off a bit the last 2 times i saw her anyway. Maybe she got frustrated or lost interest since i really haven't responded much to it, i mean a girl's got pride right? maybe her therapist told her to cut it out, or maybe i was reading too much into it, who knows. plus her flirting and actually carrying it out are two very different things, and i still can't quite believe she would act on it. anyway i think you're right, i have neither the game nor the character traits to have a lady on the side. dwelling on it in my head too much maybe, yeah, but not acting on it. thanks for the feedback to everyone it has helped me clear my head and move on.
Your imagination is running wild while in truth she's probably setting you up to buy some kind of exercise program and treats the other patrons the same.
LOL.
Enjoy the fact that a hot woman flirted with you, stand up a bit straighter, get a bounce in your step, and then think about the fact that someone is also flirting with your wife.
Or think about your whole world crashing down because you got the hots for a woman you don't even know and acted on it.
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It sounds like the situation resolved itself. It's nice to be flirted with, but you seem to have your head on straight and kept your priorities. If she tries this again, or you're actually Brad Pitt & women throw themselves at you regularly; maybe you should consider getting a tshirt with a picture of your family printed on it. LOL
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