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Men age like wine! There's a lot of women age like billy beer that's been left in the trunk of a car in a bowling alley parking lot on a hot summer's day.
Women over 30 need to accept that they're getting older and are not ever going to be attractive as they used to be and that men biologically will be drawn to younger women.
I asked an elderly friend why he believes men prefer younger women; his reply was that 'because they are still hard bodies'. At least he was being honest.
I asked why a younger woman would want to spend time with a man 30+ yrs older than her, and he said most wouldn't unless the guy was filthy rich.
Agreed. Celebs are a bad example-due to make-up, ps, and all the extra they're capable of, but I use them as people can see pix or check themselves, instead of using pic of reg people without their permission.
Tom Hanks, I find used to be quite an attractive man. I saw a recent picture of him, and he looks...less than good as he used to.
I love older women that didn't let themselves go I know of plenty and am currently still head over heels for one. I don't think you can blame it all on men. If you go on Match and look at profiles of older women they don't seem to be interested in younger men. A 4 years difference isn't really younger in my opinion, I'm talking like an 8 year or greater age difference.
A lot of that depends on the age of the woman, and I say this as someone whose 2 most significant relationships were with men 7 and 10 years younger. I was with someone through most of my 40s, but if I had been single from the time I was 42 on, I would not have dated someone so much younger than myself because of the question of having children.
In her 30s, it doesn't make much difference. If it works out, fine, both can have kids. In her late 40s and older, same thing, only that by then most men have either had their kids or had vasectomies, or know they don't want kids and have no issue dating someone who is past that point in her life.
It's when the woman is past that point and the man is in his 20s or 30s that it can become an issue, where he decides he wants kids and that's the end of that. So at 48, I'm not going to get really involved with someone more than 4 or 5 years younger than I am unless he's had a vasectomy. Not that I go around asking, but it would come up one way or another. Had a few dates with someone who was 46, and when we talked about kids, he just came out with it: "I like them but I don't want them, and I made sure I'll never have them."
A man who is 3-4 years older is still an older man.
Maybe if he's 20 and she's 16.
If we were in high school or college at the same time, we're peers. A 52-year-old man is not going to consider me a younger woman, nor would I consider him an older man. "Older" is at least 7 or 8 years in my book.
A lot of that depends on the age of the woman, and I say this as someone whose 2 most significant relationships were with men 7 and 10 years younger. I was with someone through most of my 40s, but if I had been single from the time I was 42 on, I would not have dated someone so much younger than myself because of the question of having children.
In her 30s, it doesn't make much difference. If it works out, fine, both can have kids. In her late 40s and older, same thing, only that by then most men have either had their kids or had vasectomies, or know they don't want kids and have no issue dating someone who is past that point in her life.
It's when the woman is past that point and the man is in his 20s or 30s that it can become an issue, where he decides he wants kids and that's the end of that. So at 48, I'm not going to get really involved with someone more than 4 or 5 years younger than I am unless he's had a vasectomy. Not that I go around asking, but it would come up one way or another. Had a few dates with someone who was 46, and when we talked about kids, he just came out with it: "I like them but I don't want them, and I made sure I'll never have them."
Yeah... age differences in dating are really only highlighted by major life stages, like having kids.
If you are with someone who doesn't want kids and you either do not want them or already had some, then why does it matter if you're of "child bearing age" or if he's had a vasectomy? Neither of you want to have kids, so the point is moot.
Therefore, whether he's 8 years older that you, or you're 10 years older than him (or vice versa) is completely not a biggie if you both like one another because nobody is sitting around wondering if the other person will be able to pop out a kid.
Other life stage factors can also come into play, but the kid thing is a biggie.
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Yeah... age differences in dating are really only highlighted by major life stages, like having kids.
If you are with someone who doesn't want kids and you either do not want them or already had some, then why does it matter if you're of "child bearing age" or if he's had a vasectomy? Neither of you want to have kids, so the point is moot.
Therefore, whether he's 8 years older that you, or you're 10 years older than him (or vice versa) is completely not a biggie if you both like one another because nobody is sitting around wondering if the other person will be able to pop out a kid.
Other life stage factors can also come into play, but the kid thing is a biggie.
On the surface yes. But twice now, my "Yes, I'm SURE I don't want kids, stop ASKING me" men turned around and within a year of our split either impregnated someone or got engaged/married to someone with the intent of having kids. (My divorce was mainly because he changed his mind and thought he could change mine.) So I, personally, would not believe a man more than a few years younger than I am when he says "I don't want kids" unless he can prove he had a vasectomy. Call it baggage, but just because he says so, that doesn't make it true or permanent. If a man really, truly, honestly doesn't want kids, he'll get snipped.
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