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Even knowing it was a satire, it made for a disturbing read.
I know, right?
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Originally Posted by Shanksalot
It has everything to do with money. The woman wants to know how much he earns and how much of that he's willing to flaunt on her. In the modern world, however, where men theoretically are no longer expected to be the "bread winner" and many women earn more than men, this old dating dynamic still persists. Seems to me that I'm not the one who can't "get over it".
But the OP said he *is* willing to spend money on other things out (shows, concerts, etc), and that stuff is easily more expensive than dinner out (depending on where you go). So it's really not about money in this case because he was willing to flaunt it so to speak.
Sure some women out there are interested in money, that's a give. The term gold digger exists other than for mining reasons. But it's kind of extreme to think every time a woman doesn't like a guy it's about money. There are other reasons women are interested (and not interested) in men.
When I think of politics and eating choices, I think of "A Modest Proposal."
Huh. Adding this to my reading list.
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It has everything to do with money. The woman wants to know how much he earns and how much of that he's willing to flaunt on her. In the modern world, however, where men theoretically are no longer expected to be the "bread winner" and many women earn more than men, this old dating dynamic still persists. Seems to me that I'm not the one who can't "get over it".
You can keep banging your man part on the table demanding to be heard, but the majority the US is going to date traditionally. That has nothing to with women wanting equal pay for equal work, or the right to vote.
If you insist upon finding "fault" then apply it to both men and women. Most guys I dated were pretty insistent about paying.
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Originally Posted by Shanksalot
It has everything to do with money. The woman wants to know how much he earns and how much of that he's willing to flaunt on her. In the modern world, however, where men theoretically are no longer expected to be the "bread winner" and many women earn more than men, this old dating dynamic still persists. Seems to me that I'm not the one who can't "get over it".
I have very rarely met any of these women in 25 years of dating / relationships. They don't last long when I rarely do.
It has everything to do with money. The woman wants to know how much he earns and how much of that he's willing to flaunt on her. In the modern world, however, where men theoretically are no longer expected to be the "bread winner" and many women earn more than men, this old dating dynamic still persists. Seems to me that I'm not the one who can't "get over it".
All that from a potentially 2 hour dinner outing? Wow.
And here I thought that a first dinner with someone was exactly that. A first dinner. To see if there may be an interest for a second dinner....
It has everything to do with money. The woman wants to know how much he earns and how much of that he's willing to flaunt on her. In the modern world, however, where men theoretically are no longer expected to be the "bread winner" and many women earn more than men, this old dating dynamic still persists. Seems to me that I'm not the one who can't "get over it".
You seem to be one of a few who can't get past those types, to meet all the women who don't care about that, and make their own money. Maybe you should relocate to a more progressive region. You seem stuck in a rut.
I honestly think everyone is reading a lot into this. She probably just wasn't interested in him. Now, like so many others, he's trying to rationalize why and has come up with what appears to be a reason.
Just forget about her, it was only one date anyway. It didn't work out, she's not interested, time for the OP to go find someone else (and I again think if you love cooking, a cooking class is a great way to meet women who share your passion).
That is a horrible idea, then they would be competing all the time. he needs a woman that loves home cooked meals, but can barely boil water herself.
There are many couples with relationships jump started from a mutual interest; sports, crafts, hobbies, etc. Competition doesn't necessarily become a relationship hindrance nor even becomes a factor in their relationship.
Often someone who loves the cook is also the person that can appreciate it the most.
There are many couples with relationships jump started from a mutual interest; sports, crafts, hobbies, etc. Competition doesn't necessarily become a relationship hindrance nor even becomes a factor in their relationship.
Yeah, I didn't get that either. My husband and I are competitive on a lot of things, it's one of the bests parts of our relationship.
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That is a horrible idea, then they would be competing all the time. he needs a woman that loves home cooked meals, but can barely boil water herself.
Why would they be competing? Whatever happened to sharing?
BlueCanary is right; it was only one date. Why would it be such a big deal to the OP? Maybe because he thought she'd enjoyed the dinner, so he got pumped for a 2nd date? Anyone who gets thrown this easily by a "thank you, but we just didn't click", isn't cut out for dating. The OP seems to have more issues than not wanting to eat out, and germophobia.
I wonder--could this be the same guy who posted a list of all the reasons he's been "rejected" by women after a first date?
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Even knowing it was a satire, it made for a disturbing read.
