do dating sites work for you (girls, single, friend, social)
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Yup, has worked pretty well for me. My last long term relationship and my current one both began online.
In my experience, there are quite a few flakes and wackos to weed through, but it's not much different as meeting people offline.
Agreed, I actually think my dates with men I've met online (given we get passed the first date) have went better than my dates with guys I've met in person...go figure.
I always found it incredibly hit-or-miss (more miss) and very frustrating. It requires a lot of time and effort, in my experience. I met my husband via OLD, but I think that had more to do with me relocating than anything else.
Yes, it worked pretty well for me, both in terms of meeting people/dates and some leading to dating and relationships. The last leading to marriage.
Same, all around.
I never found it frustrating. I didn't always meet guys where it was an awesome match, but I never agreed to meet anybody who was a jerk or anything. I was always pretty good at weeding out.
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Same, all around.
I never found it frustrating. I didn't always meet guys where it was an awesome match, but I never agreed to meet anybody who was a jerk or anything. I was always pretty good at weeding out.
Yeah, it is extremely rare I've met someone that was just not a good person. Generally there aren't any sparks, but the conversation is pleasant enough, and they've almost all been nice people, just not the right match.
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Yep. Minimal chemistry happens, but I never met anybody via online dating where it was like, "Oh, God, get me out of here..."
That was always pretty easy to discern from early online interaction.
There have been two times I have been wrong about people and wanted to get out of there, but with all the first meetings that is a really low percentage.
I was on OLD sites on and off for the past five years I think. I would try for a few months, give up and pursue other ways of meeting people and basically just rejoin when things were moving slowly. Got plenty of dates with OLD, more so than traditional forms of meeting people and dating, that part wasn't hard (and which is why it was a good suppliment to meeting other ways).
It was hard meeting someone "right" no mater what I did (online or offline). But the mismatches from online were a lot more extreme than the ones I met in person.
I finally did find someone through OLD though. Last time I tried online dating (Match) I joined for a month, went on about half a dozen dates over the course of about three weeks, decided I likeed someone (who liked me in return) and quit Match. So I finally found one that worked out. It's going on three months of dating so far.
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I think it is very important to take breaks. That is for certain. 2-3 mos on (generally less), at most, then off for the same period or longer. It can be a time suck. And a money suck. But also you tend to get most of the good hits from the first week or two.
I think it is very important to take breaks. That is for certain. 2-3 mos on (generally less), at most, then off for the same period or longer. It can be a time suck. And a money suck. But also you tend to get most of the good hits from the first week or two.
Just my experience.
That's kind of what I did with different types of dating not just OLD (and I took complete breaks from dating too for long stretches). It is a time suck, money suck, and it kinds of wears you down too. When I did OLD, after trying longer periods of time, I started just doing it every few months for one month at a time... for exactly the reason you said. Most of the "good" matches happen in the first few weeks. Then things die down.
Depends, if you are like Brad Pitt, it does. If you are average, it doesn't. And if you are a man or a woman.
At least in USA, it depends on, looks then race then gender. For men, its is impossible, women sometimes it works out coz they are flooded with responses.
I have been on 5 dating sites to do my research. So i know!
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