When the end of a relationship leaves you feeling like you have a mental illness?

[TabulaRasa]

Originally Posted by lostxox

I know my relationship with my ex is done and over with. There's really no chance we will ever get back together. That said, he left me feeling like I have TONS of mental issues, and it really doesn't help that I've always felt that there's something wrong with me to begin with. I had already told him I was battling with depression at the end of the relationship, but he didn't seem to take my depression seriously.

Nonetheless, I'm already speaking to a therapist and from what I've told her she thinks HE had NPD, but I still can't help but feel like that he didn't have NPD - instead I feel like I might have been the one with the NPD.

I don't know what's wrong with me? It's like I WANT someone to tell me I have some sort of disorder so I could better analyze why things happened the way they did? Everyone's telling me he was the problem, but my heart is telling me that I AM the problem.

Generally speaking, therapists are ethically bound NOT to diagnose people who they are not treating. Really, your therapist should be focusing on you, and not theorizing about a partner to whom he or she is not providing therapy.

I would be very, very skeptical of a mental health provider who is tossing out diagnoses for people he or she has not met and are not clients of his or hers.

[leftcoastie]

Originally Posted by usayit

I am assuming Narcissistic Personality Disorder.... DSM defines it.

It's a good possibility that this is the case. Read up on it... you'll be amazed.
Post edit: I'm not saying that you could have NPD, I'm thinking that partners of people with NPD often feel as though they're going crazy.