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Old 08-19-2015, 02:55 PM
 
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By very abusive I mean constantly hitting/beating women, making them feel like garbage all the time, would do everything they can to make them feel like they are worthless etc.

Anyone ever known a man like that that DID change and is now a great upstanding guy that is or would be a great father/husband etc.?
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Old 08-19-2015, 03:12 PM
 
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No, although I have never known of anyone abusive on that level. I don't think it's wise to hope for that kind of change, either.
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Old 08-19-2015, 03:17 PM
 
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By very abusive I mean constantly hitting/beating women, making them feel like garbage all the time, would do everything they can to make them feel like they are worthless etc.

Anyone ever known a man like that that DID change and is now a great upstanding guy that is or would be a great father/husband etc.?
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Old 08-19-2015, 03:19 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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No ... I don't think it's wise to hope for that kind of change, either.
Me either. The ones I knew ended up dead or incarcerated.
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Old 08-19-2015, 04:13 PM
 
Location: southwestern PA
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Nope.
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Old 08-19-2015, 04:14 PM
 
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180? Like a roundhouse kick? Sounds like a good way to shut someone up.
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Old 08-19-2015, 04:26 PM
 
Location: The Greater Houston Metro Area
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Lundy Bancroft | Healing & Prevention| Domestic Abuse & Custody – Assessing Dangerousness in Men Who Abuse Women

I read this book. The author counsels these men and their victims - and says even he has little hope that these men can change.
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Old 08-19-2015, 04:36 PM
 
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Me either. The ones I knew ended up dead or incarcerated.
Real shame these kind of guys can't just drop dead of a massive heart attack or stroke BEFORE they do their damage, huh? Or better yet thrown off a cliff as soon as they are born.
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Old 08-19-2015, 04:39 PM
 
Location: Earth
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No, although I have never known of anyone abusive on that level. I don't think it's wise to hope for that kind of change, either.
This for me too. I know of my cousin's husband, who was a bit rough with her, maybe man-handling. But nothing horrible I think.

otherwise, I have never known any serious abuse cases, and even so-unless action is taken against the guy(s), usually they keep it up. Most abuse cases tend to get worse, rather than better.
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Old 08-19-2015, 04:40 PM
 
Location: New Yawk
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No. I sure at **** wouldn't wait around for him to change. Someone lays a hand on me, I could never feel safe with him again.
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