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I read it like she wanted more info about you by text before the meet and she said so, but you brushed this aside saying you'd rather talk in person. You wanted things to go your way. So you didn't "hear" her.
Definitely agree with the above, but I am a female.
Some people don't like meeting immediately. What I see from the exchange is that she told this to you- outright- and you chose to disregard it.
You didn't want to waste your time with someone who didn't want to meet immediately. She didn't want to meet immediately. You were not compatible. What else is there to be said? Why the need for the rant about it?
I will say that this is THE most stressful time for school teachers. Getting ready for the school year is brutal and she is probably at school all weekend until late evening. It's similar to tax season for accountants.
I think you handled it fine OP, but her weirdness right now might be related to normal beginning of the year stress.
I will say that this is THE most stressful time for school teachers. Getting ready for the school year is brutal and she is probably at school all weekend until late evening. It's similar to tax season for accountants.
I think you handled it fine OP, but her weirdness right now might be related to normal beginning of the year stress.
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You said what you needed/wanted to say without being harsh in any way. Not many people can speak with wisdom, sincerity or say what they want to say. Very respectful. As long as you're content, that's all that matters.
One possibility: She had reservations after she met you about whether she wanted to see you or not. If she was that impressed and she was really attracted to you, possibly she would have been more eager to see you. She was stalling and/or really did want to get to know you to see if you had more to offer her than she originally thought.
Another possibility: She doesn't want you to waste her time either. It takes a lot longer to plan a date, get ready for it, drive to the place, meet with whoever, drive back from the date. At least for most women as we spend a good while getting ready for someone who may just turn out to be the man of our dreams.
You sound extremely impatient to me. She did explain she was not really comfortable with the speed dating and that she wanted to get to know more about you. If she wasn't interested at all, she wouldn't have responded at all, possibly blocked you from contacting her or abruptly cut you off. You think this is "lame"?????
I think she is wise and by your posting response, I believe that she made the right decision to want to get to know you better. She dodged a bullet.
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I tend to think you weren't compatible, but I also think she may have been asking questions as a refresher to who you are, since you met at a speed-dating event. She wanted to know more about you and you didn't want to share and insisted you should meet up, and she's busy at the moment with back to school school prep. She then offered to meet at Starbucks, at which point you changed your mind about meeting at all. Nothing really wrong from either side, but I think this could have gone differently too.
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