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I think a deal breaker for me would be probably be kids for sure
Same here. I don't date for the purpose of acquiring an insta-family. I have a sister and married friends with children who fill that need. I am already a cool uncle figure to several children.
Same here. I don't date for the purpose of acquiring an insta-family. I have a sister and married friends with children who fill that need. I am already a cool uncle figure to several children.
There is no need to fill here as far as kids are concerned. I don't need to be around them at all. Even a potential date with grown kids would be a no for me. Just not interested in being anyone's mom, not even a step mom.
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As I've posted before, one of my first questions is if she has kids (or if the kids with her are hers). If so, then I politely thank her for her time, as I have no interest in dating women with children.
If she seems particularly 'playful' I ask where the boyfriend is or if she's ever going to reply to the guy who texted her several hours ago. This has actually gotten some sly laughter from a few guilty ladies, who, again, were then sent on their merry goddamned way.
EDIT: I should clarify that these are women who approach me, as I wouldn't approach a single mother, regardless of the cuteness.
There is no need to fill here as far as kids are concerned. I don't need to be around them at all. Even a potential date with grown kids would be a no for me. Just not interested in being anyone's mom, not even a step mom.
Fair enough. I just have a hard time envisioning a 22 year old man (or woman) for example, calling his (or her) dad's most recent girlfriend "Mom." Teenagers would be a different story.
Fair enough. I just have a hard time envisioning a 22 year old man (or woman) for example, calling his (or her) dad's most recent girlfriend "Mom." Teenagers would be a different story.
It's not really a matter of someone calling me mom, but the fact that someone calls him dad. If a guy has kids, he always does, and no matter how old, they are around. (except, of course, in circumstances such as death or estrangement, etc) Adult kids can often be as needy and drama filled as younger ones, so no guarantee of avoiding that. Next comes grandkids. NOPE. Want no part of that. I'd rather be single.
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Fair enough. I just have a hard time envisioning a 22 year old man (or woman) for example, calling his (or her) dad's most recent girlfriend "Mom." Teenagers would be a different story.
Yeah. Even my friend didn't do that when she was a teen. Her step-father was always called by his name. She never called him dad. Just "Richard." She also never referred to him as just "dad" either It's always "My step-dad." So not very personable.
It's not really a matter of someone calling me mom, but the fact that someone calls him dad. If a guy has kids, he always does, and no matter how old, they are around. (except, of course, in circumstances such as death or estrangement, etc) Adult kids can often be as needy and drama filled as younger ones, so no guarantee of avoiding that. Next comes grandkids. NOPE. Want no part of that. I'd rather be single.
Good points! I did not think about the effect of grandchildren so I am glad we had this conversation. The drama of dating single parents does not end when the children reach adulthood. It is likely to be followed by the doting, lovey-dovey interactions inherent in the grandparent-grandchild relationship. I want no part of that either, much more mushy that being a cool uncle.
One I can think of is Southern Accents (No offense southerners!)
I don't care how good looking a woman is, once I hear that heavy southern accent it instantly turns me off. She starts looking like Danny Devito to me.
I'm not even sure why, I have nothing against them but it almost gives me a headache.
Really? man I love the southern accent. My late wife was from Dallas. When we met it was one of the first things that attracted me to her. Well, plus she was drop dead gorgeous. but yeah--loved the honey-dipped drawl.
I lost my wife just shy of three years ago, and only on the past few months have I even gone out on a date or had the desire too. So I havent thought of Deal Breakers in awhlke, but its an interesting topic.So I'll give it a go.
1--Smoker
2--Heavy Drinker
3--Druggie
4--more than about 20 lbs overweight. I know this is superficial, but I can't help it. I've always been attracted to reed-thin girls, and those plus-size (nice euphenism) girls just dont get my chemistry working.
5--Not a deal breaker per se, but I've never been attracted to other ethnicities. I'm a Caucasian American of German/Irish ancestry. So for some reason blacks, Latinos, and Asians have never attracted me in the least. Just my opinion.
Some of you guys deal breakers are pretty normal.
My main deal breakers
1.Gun owners
2.Red necks
3.Non-nerds
4.Athletic
5.Campers
6.Sexual prudes
7.Conservatives
8.Hopeless romantics
9.Followers
10.Hipsters
11.Military men
12.Artist type who don't have a back plan
13.Someone with no post high school education or training.
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I'd rather be single.
I want no part of that either, much more mushy that being a cool uncle.
