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I love my husband, he loves me, we find each other attractive..... however, after 30 years together some things have changed. I don't have that "sexual" relationship, but other things make up for it for the most part. I am happy to have what I have.
Yep! In fact my Mom just asked me what kind of guys I find attractive or if any guys I see really woo me? I had think and all I could come up with is "my husband is the most attractive man I've seen". I thought that when I married him and think it still. To be honest I think it's a deeper kind of attraction now (we've been married 4 years) because I LOVE his personality. He is very attractive but I think he could be 86 and I still would see right past that. There comes a point where their looks alone won't woo you- but a caring, selfless, hard working man that loves you everyday now that's hot.
Not married, but with the guy for about 10 years....yes, I love him but he's a good 30 pounds heavier andhe wasn't skinny to begin with...and I kinda worry about his health. But hey, the lights are usually off so....
you're naive my friend. mark my words: you''ll get not ONE woman here on this thread to admit that they're not physically attracted any longer to their mate. Even though stats show that after seven years or more of marriage a full 40% of women claimed in anonymous surveys that they were in fact NOT attracted physically any longer, and a full 53% admitted that sex wasn't as good, and that they rarely achieved orgasm.
The figures for men, not surprisingly--since, contrary to popular myths are really more LOYAL then women and cheat LESS--were about half that. 73% of men who'd been married for 7 or more years were still physically attracted to their mates. And about the same percentage said sex was still as good as it was during the first year of marriage.
What does this tell you about women? Anyway, seek honest answers elsewhere, you'll get very few hear. Women also lie more than men and keep more secrets.
Hahah - I read this AFTER my post...so THERE!
I think most women WANT to stay with the same guy....but that guy just does the same thing over and over again - boring! My theory is that women want a guy who changes up the sex...men want different women (who look different) but do the very same thing in bed with each one of them!
I think what some don't realize is that when you're in love that gives you "love goggles" for lack of a better term. So while we are both getting older and more worn, we still find each other hot. Your love of time together, love of how the other's mind works, the trust you have for them, all over rides the "same old lay, just another day."
Even if the thought of something new and shiny had any appeal, it is fleeting. That will not trump all of the above.
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I think most women WANT to stay with the same guy....but that guy just does the same thing over and over again - boring! My theory is that women want a guy who changes up the sex...men want different women (who look different) but do the very same thing in bed with each one of them!
I agree, and this is the part where people are their own worst enemy by being up-tight and not taking any kind of initiative to keep things exciting. Yes, sex with the same person for years on end can become routine and predictable, but it is entirely preventable.
I think most women WANT to stay with the same guy....but that guy just does the same thing over and over again - boring! My theory is that women want a guy who changes up the sex...men want different women (who look different) but do the very same thing in bed with each one of them!
Most men have that. Think about it! They have these in one:
1) Tired, (bath) robed housewife: cook, washer/cleaning woman
2) Worn out working woman
3) Exhausted mother (of their children)
4) PMS/perimenopausal or post menopausal (monster)
6) Best girlfriend of several women and animals
6) Daughter of parents
7) Sex kitten
Most men have that. Think about it! They have these in one:
1) Tired, (bath) robed housewife: cook, washer/cleaning woman
2) Worn out working woman
3) Exhausted mother (of their children)
4) PMS/perimenopausal or post menopausal (monster) 6) Best girlfriend of several women and animals
6) Daughter of parents
7) Sex kitten
What more could a man ask for?!
Before I get pummeled, I'm just kidding around!
Role playing at it's worst
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