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I've been talking to this girl for a week now and we haven't met yet. She asked me what I was doing last night and I told her nothing really.
She said she was going to go to dinner with her friend but she canceled
I said "Well that sucks"
We talked a bit more and that's that
today she texted me saying "I told you she canceled so you would take me out"
In my head I'm thiniking wtf? Why didn't you just say "hey my friend canceled want to joine me?"
Is this how females work?
Yeah, I completely disagree with everyone saying that you missed your "opportunity" or whatever. This girl actually sounds pretty lame if that's exclusively how she operates (she can only hang out with you if her other plans fall through?) -- girls invite me out all the time.
That said, why don't you just call her and ask her out? And why didn't you do that earlier? I feel like that should have happened by now.
Personally, I'd forget this girl. If there is one thing I hate is when someone can't be direct with their desires with me.
Likewise. Too many men are into the 'Sigh...I know she's playing a silly game, but I'm a MAN, so let me fulfill her expectations and cater to her' mindset. I'd say to her, 'So listen, why didn't you just say what you meant? As an adult, I don't do games.' Just flat out, like that.
Or be like the common idiot and 'take the hint' and play along next time, hoping it works out.
She didn't invite you because she would be starting the relationship being the one to initiate things and she doesn't want to be in that position in a relationship.
She gave you an opening to take the lead but you didn't take it and she's letting you know she prefers to date/be in relationships with guys that take the lead.
This is the first step in assess ones compatibility, she's already letting you know she like guys who take the lead. So if you're not comfortable with doing that then don't waste time dating her because in the end you're not going to be compatible.
Nah, she just wanted him to pay. If she'd have said, "Let's go out," she'd be footing the bill (or should have been, anyway).
So, what, she's afraid of a pizza bill, or the cost of his movie ticket, or a meal at the mall food court? Somehow, I don't think that was it.
It's more of the example set than anything related to spending cash or "losing" anything personally
If the type of relationship sought after is one of a provider/receiver (aka: traditional arrangement) it doesnt take a lot of understanding to get why someone would want to wait for the other to assert themselves and take control when given opportunity
most people will never bother to dissect what is happening because it's just how we understand these situations to work. This thread and some of its own responses are a testament to that.
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