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Near the end of our two-year relationship my ex-girlfriend stated "I still want to be chased". I believe that two years into the relationship, during which I bent over backwards to try and appease her and adapt to her concept of a relationship, she comes out and says this. Needless to say I felt somewhat disrespected that is what she wanted, where as I felt it was time that the relationship got more "serious" and mutually supportive. If all she wanted was to be courted and thus myself simply being strung along further, then it was time to move on. This was far from the only reason my interest was waning. Several weeks later I told her it was over. Her last words to me were: "But I don't want it to end." I used to laugh (inside) when thinking about this, but then it dawned on me the significance of those words. It wasn't something about how she still loved me or why was it happening etc. -- the break up was in fact something that didn't fit her master plan. As with everything else any break up would have had to have been her way for her reasons. As the years pass I realize just how fortunate I was to extricate myself from this potentially disastrous and unhappy relationship/marriage.
In many cases it just means someone doesn't want to be taken for granted...clumsy way of saying it though.
Personally your ex seems to have other issues and it's probably a good thing it ended. (Did she really think saying "but I don't want..." was going to change things? Lack of a concept of reality and that others aren't her playthings/puppets.)
In many cases it just means someone doesn't want to be taken for granted...clumsy way of saying it though.
I agree, in general I don't think that's such a bad thing to want as long as it's reciprocated, although "chase" might not be the best choice of words.
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Originally Posted by ScarletG
Personally your ex seems to have other issues and it's probably a good thing it ended. (Did she really think saying "but I don't want..." was going to change things? Lack of a concept of reality and that others aren't her playthings/puppets.)
To me, if I were to say this to a man I was involved with for a length of time it means I want the keep the excitement alive in our relationship and want it to feel as "fresh" as in the beginning. I want you to think of me in the same way you did when we first met and to look at me as you did in the beginning of our relationship--worth the effort of going to the extra trouble of letting me know how special I am to you as you are to me....to pursue me for the rest of our lives together, as I would like to pursue you.
Let's face it, how many more relationships would work if more people felt like this?
You probably are better off at this point to think the way you do. She's gone.
It means she's one of those women who's NEVER satisfied. Unless she constantly gets that tingly feeling of romance novel type fantasies, she will make men miserable.
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