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My husband fits what I want in a man to a T. He makes me feel loved and taken care of most of the times. Except when he is in grumpy mood, he is the perfect man for me.
Like now, he invited my family for barbecue this weekend. And he is in mad cleaning mode since Monday. I do help, but he does most of the cleaning.
Having said that, I hate that when he invites people in the house, he biatches that he is the only one cleaning the house, excuse me, I am the ONLY one cleaning his pet cat's poopies every 5 minutes every single day even after I come home from work, dead tired. Ugh.
Some other guy could still have all the stuff I "need" but not be the person for me. It's all the characteristics that make up my husband that make him the right guy.
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I think that is a loaded question..
I think every woman goes through phases about what they feel they need according to age and curcumstance...
But within US All there are a few attributes...qualities and "things" we need have echoed throughout all the phases..For me? My needs vs my wants have changed based on experiences..
Im no longer looking for the perfect male specimen..
Im comfortable in my own skin to know what I have to offer and there are very simple things i need...
I need respect...loyalty...honesty and communication..
I feel strongly that without these there is no relationship...
The older we get the more baggage we acquire...and there should be no shame. your past belongs to you be it good or bad...
Its a simple request however these days? Its hard to find someone that still thinks along these lines..
A breakdown?
Respect me enough to be honest with who you are and allow me the choice to make up my mind.
Loyalty..
Be my rock..my safe harbor the guy in my corner who lives me enough to tell me lovingly when im making a bad judgment or vondoke me...be faithful to me? And I will give you all of me willingly.
Honesty...give me the truth be real..I respect a truth more than I ever will a sugar coated lie and while I may not always like the truth? I WILL TRUST YOU..That in itself is a gem...
Communication..
Speak to me other than surface topic bs Really speak to me...let us resolve whatever needs to be resolved.
Meh, I'm pretty low-maintenance: mutual respect, companionship, trust, enough attention to feel loved and wanted (but not so much that it's smothering and cramps my style), plenty of sex (non-vanilla, but not too freaky), and stability.
^^^^^^ What she said ( cept for the low-maintenance part)
Oh and the stability thing Isn't so important right now. ( for me )
Freaky is good ... Freaky works.
so yeah... What she said.... mostly. :
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I'd like to encourage women to talk about what constitutes a great relationship/partner for them, and what are things that make women leave a relationship. Please talk about your personal experiences only. Many times you'll hear men say "but we had a perfect life; everything was great; I don't know why she left".
In response to this part, the reason my marriage ended, I believe, is because my ex-husband never truly saw us as partners; he was not fully committed to the idea that marriage is "all in." He didn't want to be part of a team, he wanted to continue to do whatever he wanted and also have a wife around when it was convenient. He didn't want to be a responsible adult when being married and having kids means you pretty much have to be a responsible adult or everything will crumble.
I carried things as long as I could. I begged and pleaded. I tried everything I could think of, including counseling, open marriage, and a trial separation. None of it mattered because we weren't a team. It was HIM and his needs and then somewhere....waaay down the road, blurry and off in the distance, there was me and the kids.
If you are not fully committed to the idea that marriage is a true partnership, that the couple are a team and should decide things as a team, support each other as a team, plan the future as a team, etc. then just don't get married. Please.
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