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I've never online dated, so I can't comment from personal experience but from what I gather and or hear, it seems like there are far more men on those sites... if that is the case, why are you spending so much time "pulling conversation" out of this guy as you put it.
Men in general aren't as wordy or talkative as women, maybe that is a factor here... IDK.....
Well, this was worthy of a spit take.
I'm a 47 year old single mom. You think I have good quality guys falling all over themselves to date me?
So when a decent looking professional contacts me first, I'm not going to blow him off based on a short message.
Just ask something non threatening, but inviting. "So when are you going to drive down to get to know me better?" Some ship like that. Don't just "cutoff communication" as the perfect c-d crowd always wants you to do.
For contrast, here is another conversation that seems more 'normal' to me:
Hi,
Hope your having a good week. You have a nice profile and I would be delighted if we could get to know each other. I also consider myself very affectionate and you will not be giving any foot rubs without one in return :-)If you're interested I would like to hear from you.
Hi Tim,
So, can I assume that Fido is the awesome dog? Golden Retriever/Black Lab mix? (this was based on his Username)
Hi !
No that is Al, unfortunately Fido is no longer with us, he was my cat. How about you any pets? I think you have a great profile and it sounds like you love seafood as well. I would love to hear some of your plans for when your nest is empty:-)
See...he mentioned something specific in his profile, I mentioned something specific about his, and he gave me two conversational openings I can do a lot with.
I've been tinkering with online dating for many years. Occasionally I'll get a conversation going that goes like this one:
From Him: Nice pictures
From Me:
Hi! I almost didn't respond because you live so far away but I see you work all over the place. Between work and your extensive travel, when do you have time to sleep under your own roof?
From Him:
Hi,
I live just north of (a suburb of your city.)
But I'm working in (a city 2 hours away) so that is what it says on my profile.
From Me:
So you're used to a lot of driving! What's your favorite kind of commercial project to build? (because his profile really only mentions the fact that he is in commercial construction)
From him:
Restaurants. (name of trendy pizza place)
okay, so, the info in his profile is minimal. He has pictures of his nice house. A couple of pics of him and he is a decent looking guy. So I was willing to give it a shot. But what am I supposed to say to him now?
Because normally in a case like this, I'll continue trying to pull conversation out of him, and will end up giving up out of boredom.
I wouldn't say anything to him at this point, unless you enjoy wasting your time with passive men who are not that interested in you. If he had any interest at all, he would have at least asked you a question about yourself.
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