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Because after two back-to-back LTRs (one 8 years, followed by a one year relationship that continued on until recently as "will we/won't we" BS) I'm just exhausted. I have no clue what I'm doing and I'm too tired to learn.
On Wednesday I went out with a new friend I met over the weekend and didn't realize it was a date until he kissed me. So I think I'm moronic when it comes to dating anyway.
Plus I don't feel like going out there right now. I don't feel like plucking and waxing and buying new underwear and shaving certain parts and exfoliating and bleaching and fasting and all of the other nonsense that comes with being a single woman. It's sweater and boot weather. I just want to wear my comfy oversized sweaters and leggings and not have to worry about adorning my plumage so I can attract a mate. Bleh.
Because I haven't really found anyone drama-free. After I got divorced, I had a gf but ended the relationship after I discovered she wanted to move in with me (I have a very small apt. - a Studio); Another woman whom I've known forever is sweet but very needy; there are a couple of other women I know, with whom I would like to establish a relationship, but one's a therapist who works 60-70 hours a week (even Saturday); another is several years older and has some minor health issues.
I'm a resolved single. I'm too selfish and unable to compromise enough for a relationship. I've been in 2 relationships in my life and both were wonderful experiences. I loved the companionship of a relationship and having someone to do stuff with every now and then, but I feel more comfortable alone and have never had any interest in anything serious. I knew at a young age that marriage wasn't for me. I think most people see someone long-term with the idea that it might eventually progress, but my relationships never went anywhere because I wouldn't let them. So I decided it was unfair for me to get involved in a relationship with a woman when I have no intention (and am really incapable) of a serious relationship. That just leads to hurt feelings and disappointment.
Truth be told, I'm extremely unfortunate looking and don't have a lot going for me, so I probably would've been single anyway even without the "resolved single" declaration. However, making a choice to be permanently single definitely helps the ego. I've rejected myself from the dating pool, so no one has to reject me. To me, it sounds a lot better to say that I don't want a relationship than I can't get a girlfriend.
I think my problem has been difficulty meeting eligible ladies in the right environment at the right time in real life. I'm currently attempting the OLD experience which I don't recommend to anyone. I just need to get out there more.
And like others have stated, it's not all that bad being single. Ultimately a relationship would be nice, but i'm not going to get involved with a lady that has a ton of baggage and drama. Cigarette smoking is a huge turnoff as well as a woman that doesn't take care of themselves physically. I guess the standards are set high but so be it so are the costs.
Because I am a total loser with multiple serious and untreatable mental disorders who can't manage money or "bridge the gap" and really connect with any other human being"
Because after two back-to-back LTRs (one 8 years, followed by a one year relationship that continued on until recently as "will we/won't we" BS) I'm just exhausted. I have no clue what I'm doing and I'm too tired to learn.
On Wednesday I went out with a new friend I met over the weekend and didn't realize it was a date until he kissed me. So I think I'm moronic when it comes to dating anyway.
Plus I don't feel like going out there right now. I don't feel like plucking and waxing and buying new underwear and shaving certain parts and exfoliating and bleaching and fasting and all of the other nonsense that comes with being a single woman. It's sweater and boot weather. I just want to wear my comfy oversized sweaters and leggings and not have to worry about adorning my plumage so I can attract a mate. Bleh.
And after that vivid imagery it looks like a good recipe to remain single. jK.. really women just need to shave the legs and arm pits and basically keep good hygiene. Most men aren't that picky
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jK.. really women just need to shave the legs and arm pits and basically keep good hygiene. Most men aren't that picky 