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for those who are married or live with their significant other, do you go to bed at the same time with your SO *every* night? or does one of you sometimes stay up later to watch tv or do something else? is this important to you? do you think it's a crucial part of having a healthy relationship to go to bed together every night?
I've been married 14 years (and with my spouse for 4 years before that) and I almost always go to bed before he does. About once a week, he will go to bed before me and it screws our routine up, LOL. It takes me a long time to fall asleep, and I wiggle and toss and turn a lot, and I need that time alone to fall asleep before he comes in or he gives me grief about my amount of movement. Also, he snores, and it helps if I fall asleep first to avoid having to listen to it.
And, while I think it is ideal in a relationship that you sleep in the same bed as your partner, just the two of you (i.e. no children or pets), I think the need for sleep and comfort for both parties trumps that need to be together sometimes, whether it be due to medical needs, completely different work schedules etc.
My DH nearly always goes to bed at least an hour, more often two hours, before I do, and he gets up hours earlier than I do as well. I have found that it is very difficult to change one's own body clock to accommodate another person's. We have been married for 24 years now and have never found it problematic not to share a bedtime.
On the other hand, my ex-husband and I nearly always went to bed and had lights out at the same time, and that didn't help our relationship one bit. It's far more important to have compatible personalities than compatible bedtimes.
Nah. I'm usually up until 1 or 2am, while he needs to be in bed by 10pm. We'll watch some TV, I tuck him in and then go do my thing after he goes to sleep. Half the time I just crash in whichever empty bed I find, because he's pretty light sleeper and I don't want to wake him up when I finally do go to bed.
Last edited by Ginge McFantaPants; 09-16-2015 at 09:31 AM..
She typically falls asleep on the couch an hour or so before I'm ready for bed. Sometimes, we cuddle and she falls asleep. In either case, we are both in the same room, unless I'm working on a project elsewhere in the house.
When I'm ready for bed, I wake her up and we both go in together. A vast majority of the time, we snuggle in bed until she falls asleep and I'm usually not far behind.
Of course, we've only been married fifteen years, so I suppose that could change.
As such, I generally head to bed earlier (or fall asleep on the couch) while she is watching TV or something. I also wake earlier and do errands before she even gets out of bed.
However, children changed all that... its pretty much sleep whenever you can mode.
I think it is not crucial to a relationship... However other "wake" things like enjoying activities, chores, and such are important to a relationship.
We used to go to bed at the same time. Since she's been pregnant, she goes to bed at 9:00 and I stay up for an extra three hours and work on remodeling our house every other night or so. I am looking forward to matching our sleep schedules again, but it may be tricky once the baby comes.
We go when we go, no set in concrete routine or requirement.
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