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He is not nice to his ex wife but she has a history of stealing from him, drug use and cannot stay out of jail. I can see how he needs to be mean to her so he can maintain his freedom from her situations and protect his kids. We have similar exes...
Okay, try this for choosing better men:
If you meet a new man and he seems nice, ask about his history and his life experience.
If there are drugs/jail/severe mental issues/crazy exes/cheating/lots of kids with several women/often changes jobs anywhere in his stories, it MIGHT be an indication that he is NOT a good man.
There are good people who experience bad stuff but you, who has been burned with losers, should be more cautious to not fall for the weirdos again.
Also, always look at what friends he has. Your friends often reflect who you are. Not always, but often.
I am done with losers, jerks and crazy men. I cannot take anymore of the nonsense.
Where do you find good ones? How do you know for certain they are good?
I have been spending time with a good friend and he is always right there for me and his actions show me he cares, but how do I know he wont suddenly change?
Is this not how you found the last jerk? As I recall, he was a "good friend that was always there for you" just like this one. Maybe it's time to quit trying to date the "good friends" and concentrate on a total stranger. I think you are trying too hard and unless you have changed your thought process, you are too picky from what I recall.
If you figure out where to find good guys, maybe you can let me know where to find a good girl. Lol.
I am a good person that has a lot going for them. I generally date down, way down apparently. My flaw is being too nice, too trusting and putting up with too much crap.
Why do you date down?! I would say that is your biggest problem. Your lack of self esteem believing you don't deserve better. Sadly, women believe that if they date down the man will forever love them and cherish them. This is not true. Any man can treat you poorly. It doesn't matter if he's fat, bald, ugly, broke, nerdy, or socially awkward. If he can smell your insecurity he will take advantage of that.
I disagree that you are a good woman. Any man of decent caliber will see you for what you are. A mother who drags her already damaged kids through one rotten relationship after another. They are probably even more scared than you about what the next one will be like.
Give up on "finding a man" until your kids are grown up and self sufficient. Clearly they can't handle what you are putting them through presently. This is not my advice for every single mom, only the ones who thrive on drama and put their physical and romantic needs ahead of their children's emotional ones.
Wait i never said I didnt think I deserve better. I am a little, cute, fun, irish hottie that has men staring at me all the time.
I know i have my portion of my life together. I just cant get rid of the drama that others bring to my life. Like having a child with an untreated bipolar man, that now thinks the ticket to not having to pay cs, is to kill me. This is my drama.. Please do tell me how I can permanently remove him from my life?
Rarely do the guys that also have their crap together, want me. The ones that take interest are the ones that need something.
If you meet a new man and he seems nice, ask about his history and his life experience.
If there are drugs/jail/severe mental issues/crazy exes/cheating/lots of kids with several women/often changes jobs anywhere in his stories, it MIGHT be an indication that he is NOT a good man.
There are good people who experience bad stuff but you, who has been burned with losers, should be more cautious to not fall for the weirdos again.
Also, always look at what friends he has. Your friends often reflect who you are. Not always, but often.
Him and I both have really good friends.
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