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I would agree on the insecurity part but I have no issues with trust or level of her affection and care towards me. I would rather call it compatibility - you're now shaming me into s*** shaming, whereas I simply believe what she did was wrong and we have incompatible values. That's all. I would never call a girl a ****
What a load of crap....you aren't being shamed into sl*t-shaming her...it's what you are doing...but you just add the twist that it would be okay if she did it with you! Double standard and
I can't wait to see what your complaint about your next relationship will be...
This complaint seems like the one where a poster will be mad because his girlfriend made him "wait" longer than she made the last guy 'wait", as if all sexual relationships should be an exact replica of the previous one.
This complaint seems like the one where a poster will be mad because his girlfriend made him "wait" longer than she made the last guy 'wait", as if all sexual relationships should be an exact replica of the previous one.
That's come up in several threads--the idea that if a woman in her past did something that she wasn't really into, or she didn't like, or wasn't ready for, that thing always has to be on the table because otherwise it's not fair to her current and future boyfriends.
I figured as much. Occasionally guys on this forum complain when they find out their girlfriend had a kinkier sex life with previous partners and they're only getting vanilla.
It's just another form of s**t-shaming IMO. Sometimes a woman discovers certain lifestyle choices weren't her cup of tea and then the current boyfriend decides she's tainted and dumps her.
Honestly, this is what I worry about a lot. I'd be very upset if I found out a woman I was seeing would do things with someone else but not with me. It would make me feel like I'm not attractive enough to her & would pretty much ruin the relationship.
I honestly think that's not necessarily the case, if she was willing to do it with someone else a bunch of times than it's obviously she enjoyed it unless it was just one time. But if she views you as "different" & doesn't want to do those things anymore it would be a mood killer. I mean why would a guy want to settle for a woman that has done more with a guy in the past, but refuses to do it with you even if she enjoyed it?
Honestly, this is what I worry about a lot. I'd be very upset if I found out a woman I was seeing would do things with someone else but not with me. It would make me feel like I'm not attractive enough to her & would pretty much ruin the relationship. I honestly think that's a lie, if she was willing to do it with someone else a bunch of times than it's obviously she enjoyed it unless it was just one time. But if she views you as "different" & doesn't want to do those things anymore it would be a mood killer.
I feel the same way. I can understand if she doesn't really like doing certain things and maybe felt coerced or pressured in past relationships... but otherwise, I'd feel kind of short-changed if a man brought his A-game to everyone but me, especially if the act in question is something I really like.
That's come up in several threads--the idea that if a woman in her past did something that she wasn't really into, or she didn't like, or wasn't ready for, that thing always has to be on the table because otherwise it's not fair to her current and future boyfriends.
Well, how do you know they didn't like it if they don't want to do something with a particular guy that they did with others? I'm sure that's not the case all the time where they didn't like it.
I feel the same way. I can understand if she doesn't really like doing certain things and maybe felt coerced or pressured in past relationships... but otherwise, I'd feel kind of short-changed if a man brought his A-game to everyone but me, especially if the act in question is something I really like.
Yes, exactly. It would be a pretty big turn off & would really make me wonder why she was willing to do those things with others but not with me.
Doesnt need to be...you can have multiple partners if you had sex for the right reason...letting somebody random, outside of a meaningful relationship be vulgar for the pure sense of physical pleasure is a sign of a low self respect and animalism to me..but we all view things differently
You started out acting jealous because she sexted someone else in the past and not YOU when you liked it soooo much...now you've turned it around and say she's nasty to have done it in the first place! My, how we twist things around to suit ourselves! - Now you're perfectly justified in dumping the sl#t because she wasn't sl#tty with you. I'm glad for her - she needs a guy who can get beyond sex and be respectful of her and her past.
Why is it you enjoy (or said you enjoyed) such sl#tty behavior as sexting anyway? Or have you now sworn off it completely because it is degrading to receive this stuff? No exchange of pics either, right? Ya better warn any potential partners so you get get caught unaware by such disgusting behavior.
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