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It varies completely by person. What's comfortable for you is different for him, and neither of you is "right." For instance, I dislike a lot of texting. I would not be comfortable with someone who texted me all day long, yet you don't mind it. I would find it very annoying. Neither of us is "right." It's a personal preference.
And I'd rather have texting all day than talk on the phone. Unless an issue needed to be resolved - that should always be done through talking.
I'd rather not be on the phone.... due to the office and my work. Texts are much better.
We save talk and discussions for the evening... However, we trade texts once in a while.. small stuff. Usually just to check up on how the day's going and errands/shopping stuff.
Sounds like you're not into the relationship as much as he is. He's too clingy and his constant need for attention is wearing you down. You two need to get together and iron this out before it drives a wedge in your budding relationship.
Sounds like you're not into the relationship as much as he is. He's too clingy and his constant need for attention is wearing you down. You two need to get together and iron this out before it drives a wedge in your budding relationship.
See, this is what I would like to determine.
Does not being available to or wanting communication 24/7 come off as 'I don't care about this relationship?' because that's really not the case. I'm just not a very clingy person.
Many people on here have indicated that they don't talk to their partners on the phone everyday, or don't text all day.. does that translate to their disinterest in the relationship?
Does not being available to or wanting communication 24/7 come off as 'I don't care about this relationship?' because that's really not the case. I'm just not a very clingy person.
Many people on here have indicated that they don't talk to their partners on the phone everyday, or don't text all day.. does that translate to their disinterest in the relationship?
Why don't you tell him "I DO care about this relationship, but I am just not a very clingy person, I don't need constant contact."
If he keeps bombarding you with messages, you will soon get annoyed and once you are annoyed, that's gonna be the end ....
Been there, done that. Once you are at the point that you get mad when the phone beeps, there is no return.
It sounds like the biggest issue here is your boyfriend is very insecure. My bf and I text a lot during the day. We talk on the phone maybe once or twice a week. But we don't live in the same city. I think if we got to see each other every day it would probably be less. There's really no right or wrong. Some people want to be in touch every minute, others don't. I think that would be a LOT of pressure on anyone for the other person to expect them to be constantly communicating and not just that but being touchy feely in person and gushing on social media. I don't think I could handle that.
He has a part-time job and also studies. I work full-time. But he thinks that if he can make the time to text all day, and have lengthy phone conversations, why can't I? That in turn makes him feel like he's putting in more effort in this relationship than I am. So I'm constantly trying to live up to his standard of doing things the way he thinks it should be done.
But it's hard. And he doesn't seem to get it. He needs me to be all over him at all times - whether it's via phone, text, in person, social media etc.
So is he looking for a mom or a girlfriend? You sound like your kind of flattered when in fact hes a big baby, that most on here find creepy. To each his own but you will tire of this quickly if in a permanent situation. You might remind him you get paid for eight hrs work and one day he will also have to do the same. Does he have a work ethic? Hope he will be able to support you if you lose your job due to mr. insecurity
He has a part-time job and also studies. I work full-time. But he thinks that if he can make the time to text all day, and have lengthy phone conversations, why can't I? That in turn makes him feel like he's putting in more effort in this relationship than I am. So I'm constantly trying to live up to his standard of doing things the way he thinks it should be done.
But it's hard. And he doesn't seem to get it. He needs me to be all over him at all times - whether it's via phone, text, in person, social media etc.
So is he looking for a mom or a girlfriend? You sound like your kind of flattered when in fact hes a big baby, that most on here find creepy. To each his own but you will tire of this quickly if in a permanent situation. You might remind him you get paid for eight hrs work and one day he will also have to. Hope he will be able to support you if you lose your job due to mr. insecurity
Your BF is a control freak, that what he is. This is NOT love!
He wants your 24/7 attention, he wants to be texted no matter what. He wants to know where you are and what are you doing, at any time of the day.
He cannot expect you to text him all day long (is he bored? doesn't he have something to do? work? school? housework? errands? reading a book or watching TV? no hobbies? no friends? - wow!)
He is also clingy, insecure, demanding, childish, high maintenance sorta guy. Really annoying.
Being with someone 24/7 without having personal space is not good for mental health. Everyone needs to be left alone from time to time.
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