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... and "you" don't have to allow it. Move on, as you would with ANY friend of either gender.
I already said that it has never happened to me, and there's no need for you to tell me to not allow it for the simple reason that I already know not to do so. This thread is about the people who do it, and about how low it is, which you agree with.
I already said that it has never happened to me, and there's no need for you to tell me to not allow it for the simple reason that I already know not to do so. This thread is about the people who do it, and about how low it is, which you agree with.
You really can't do anything about the people who use other people, you can only control yourself (and I mean yourself as in not you personally, but in the broad sense). So saying they are horrible people does nothing. They don't care, they aren't going to change, and it doesn't really help anyone.
So I think what that poster is saying (And I agree) if "you" (in the broad sense) are in a friend zone it's because you've allowed yourself to be placed there. If someone takes advantage of you because of it, you need to exercise your free will and move on and not deal with people who are users.
You really can't do anything about the people who use other people, you can only control yourself (and I mean yourself as in not you personally, but in the broad sense). So saying they are horrible people does nothing. They don't care, they aren't going to change, and it doesn't really help anyone.
So I think what that poster is saying (And I agree) if "you" (in the broad sense) are in a friend zone it's because you've allowed yourself to be placed there. If someone takes advantage of you because of it, you need to exercise your free will and move on and not deal with people who are users.
True, but when someone is infatuated with or in love with someone, and the they tell you let's just be friends, it's very easy to believe that the person likes you, and it's also very easy to believe that maybe, just maybe, there's a chance one day. Criticizing the person who is friendzoned and telling them not to let it happen is one thing, but that person isn't the one manipulating the other. Knowingly taking advantage of someone deserves more attention and discussion that being taken advantage of, simply because the "victim" is in a vulnerable state of mind, whereas the manipulator is simply using the situation to boost their ego and gain a lackey. The former is unfortunate, but the latter is very low and that's what is being discussed right now.
True, but when someone is infatuated with or in love with someone, and the they tell you let's just be friends, it's very easy to believe that the person likes you, and it's also very easy to believe that maybe, just maybe, there's a chance one day. Criticizing the person who is friendzoned and telling them not to let it happen is one thing, but that person isn't the one manipulating the other. Knowingly taking advantage of someone deserves more attention and discussion that being taken advantage of, simply because the "victim" is in a vulnerable state of mind, whereas the manipulator is simply using the situation to boost their ego and gain a lackey. The former is unfortunate, but the latter is very low and that's what is being discussed right now.
I am not criticizing, I am giving the truth as the voice of someone who has been there, done that (and I know I only have myself to blame for letting myself be in that friendzone... no one forced me there). It's not easy, but if you find yourself in that situation (again the bigger "you), you just have to move on no matter what. Distract yourself, get a new hobby, work out more, whatever. It's the only thing you can do about it because you can only control your own actions. Complaining about bad people being bad accomplishing nothing.
I am not criticizing, I am giving the truth as the voice of someone who has been there, done that (and I know I only have myself to blame for letting myself be in that friendzone... no one forced me there). It's not easy, but if you find yourself in that situation (again the bigger "you), you just have to move on no matter what. Distract yourself, get a new hobby, work out more, whatever. It's the only thing you can do about it because you can only control your own actions. Complaining about bad people being bad accomplishing nothing.
Again, the topic is about people who manipulate others. It's a legitimate topic. It can be discussed.
I curse the day the word friendzone was ever invented. God the whole concept is annoying.
Look at this 15 step battle plan to "test" someone for true friendship. Seriously?
Is someone doesn't want to boink you either you can either deal with it or you can't. If you can't be around the person without hoping and wishing then remove yourself from the relationship. Stop making this a thing someone did TO you. Mangage your own emotions. Yikes.
I already said that it has never happened to me, and there's no need for you to tell me to not allow it for the simple reason that I already know not to do so. This thread is about the people who do it, and about how low it is, which you agree with.
Again, the topic is about people who manipulate others. It's a legitimate topic. It can be discussed.
Well, I agree that mean people suck. I don't know what else to discuss about it other than to avoid them.
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