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If it's someone really important to you, risk it. Brother or sister, absolute best friend for life, etc.
Otherwise, even if they're sort of passingly important to you but not CLOSE -- mind your own business.
People seldom think so much as they draw ridiculous associations. They break up and for reasons no one understands YOU are the common denominator. For the cheater, you told on them. It ALWAYS comes out so don't think you can stay anonymous. For the one cheated on, they associate you with unpleasantness in their lives. The former friendliness drops to cordiality via this association AND some degree of embarrassment, then the relationship backs off to distance, and fades.
Kaput.
If they work it out, now you're labeled a busybody and a troublemaker, and everybody has forgotten that you were trying to protect one of them. Word gets around (like I said, people are stupid) and it's almost as though you caused the cheater to stray and the one cheated on, needless anguish.
I walked into a bar near my house and saw a buddy's girlfriend there, making out with another guy on the patio and in PDA mode. I immediately, detoured back into the bar and called my buddy and told him to come down, I would buy him beers and Jager and hang out.
He only lived about ten minutes away.
I texted him to meet me on the patio when he got there, then I took off to get something to eat at a restaurant next door to the bar.
He showed up, walked right into it and having beers with me was the last thing he was thinking about at that point.
If it's someone really important to you, risk it. Brother or sister, absolute best friend for life, etc.
Otherwise, even if they're sort of passingly important to you but not CLOSE -- mind your own business.
People seldom think so much as they draw ridiculous associations. They break up and for reasons no one understands YOU are the common denominator. For the cheater, you told on them. It ALWAYS comes out so don't think you can stay anonymous. For the one cheated on, they associate you with unpleasantness in their lives. The former friendliness drops to cordiality via this association AND some degree of embarrassment, then the relationship backs off to distance, and fades.
Kaput.
If they work it out, now you're labeled a busybody and a troublemaker, and everybody has forgotten that you were trying to protect one of them. Word gets around (like I said, people are stupid) and it's almost as though you caused the cheater to stray and the one cheated on, needless anguish.
Kaput AND they both hate you.
This is exactly what I told my cousin... I completely agree with you
Also it is highly unlikely they will believe you anyway, unless you are INSANELY close.
I like to avoid drama.
Exactly. People will shoot the messenger.
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