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I think people (especially females) get this idea in their heads that all relationships that are "meant to be" are supposed to be easy, no issues or problems. I'm not sure if this is true or the idea we got from watching all the movies about romance.
How many people can honestly say that it was always easy from day one? Or how many people can say that their relationship had complications, but still worked out? Has anyone ever had to make the decision to walk away and that actually helped further the relationship once the other person realize they made a mistake?
Without going into details, I've been in a very complicated situation with a man since May. But lately I've really been questioning whether or not we are "meant to be" or if this would work out. I really feel like he thinks he has me and I'm not going anywhere and that's why he can't make a decision about whether or not he wants to be with me.
I think people (especially females) get this idea in their heads that all relationships that are "meant to be" are supposed to be easy, no issues or problems. I'm not sure if this is true or the idea we got from watching all the movies about romance.
How many people can honestly say that it was always easy from day one? Or how many people can say that their relationship had complications, but still worked out? Has anyone ever had to make the decision to walk away and that actually helped further the relationship once the other person realize they made a mistake?
Without going into details, I've been in a very complicated situation with a man since May. But lately I've really been questioning whether or not we are "meant to be" or if this would work out. I really feel like he thinks he has me and I'm not going anywhere and that's why he can't make a decision about whether or not he wants to be with me.
Healthy, satisfying relationships take work. What they don't take is one person having to convince the other to be with him or her.
I consider myself a difficult personality, especially as a spouse.
My late husband was very easy going, and we still had a rocky start, but were very happy after 18 years when he passed.
My current husband is a difficult personality, and we have a rocky start.... but we both know that is how it is because we butt heads, we both know neither is going anywhere, and the other's happiness is very important to both of us.
I'm not a person who will ever have an easy marriage or relationship. /shrug
But I pick awesome husbands!!!
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I consider myself a difficult personality, especially as a spouse.
My late husband was very easy going, and we still had a rocky start, but were very happy after 18 years when he passed.
My current husband is a difficult personality, and we have a rocky start.... but we both know that is how it is because we butt heads, we both know neither is going anywhere, and the other's happiness is very important to both of us.
I'm not a person who will ever have an easy marriage or relationship. /shrug
But I pick awesome husbands!!!
Yes, my husband is a bit... high maintenance; much like a young Frank Costanza. In the beginning it was mentally exhausting, because I'm the type who almost never get's worked up. Except over craft projects. Want to see me go ape-****? Just tell me I have to make so some open-ended Pinteresty type of project: "What kind of mentally deranged ****-nut decided to invent scrapbooking, anyway??!! **** you, PTA. You got my annual dues, you got my Box Tops, but I won't let you take my dignity!" (That was a direct quote from last week's... incident)
Yes, my husband is a bit... high maintenance; much like a young Frank Costanza. In the beginning it was mentally exhausting, because I'm the type who almost never get's worked up. Except over craft projects. Want to see me go ape-****? Just tell me I have to so some open-ended Pinteresty type of project: "What kind of mentally deranged ****-nut decided to invent scrapbooking, anyway??!! **** you, PTA. You got my annual dues, you got my Box Tops, but I won't let you take my dignity!" (That was a direct quote from last week's... incident)
Woman you seriously crack me up, and you are a wicked little minx to boot.
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I think people (especially females) get this idea in their heads that all relationships that are "meant to be" are supposed to be easy, no issues or problems. I'm not sure if this is true or the idea we got from watching all the movies about romance.
How many people can honestly say that it was always easy from day one? Or how many people can say that their relationship had complications, but still worked out? Has anyone ever had to make the decision to walk away and that actually helped further the relationship once the other person realize they made a mistake?
Without going into details, I've been in a very complicated situation with a man since May. But lately I've really been questioning whether or not we are "meant to be" or if this would work out. I really feel like he thinks he has me and I'm not going anywhere and that's why he can't make a decision about whether or not he wants to be with me.
If anything I'd say totally the opposite - women expect to "work" at relationships and men are more likely to give them up if they require much attention at all. Relationships are not easy, but neither should you have to constantly work at them - there should be a lot of fun and carefree moments mixed in with the challenges and disagreements.
Honestly, I am married and my easiest relationship so far has been the one with my husband. I never once had to guess, "Will he call me? What did he mean when he said some cryptic phrase? Will he commit to me?" It's not to say that relationships aren't work, but they also should be with two people who know where they stand with each other and aren't still saying one thing and meaning another.
I don't believe a woman should chase down a man to figure out what does he mean when he said, "I had a great time".... but he didn't call back after six days or we've been together for months, but not in the way I want - "why?" I just believe that part of it shouldn't be so difficult, because the men that want to be with you let it be known.
Honestly, I am married and my easiest relationship so far has been the one with my husband. I never once had to guess, "Will he call me? What did he mean when he said some cryptic phrase? Will he commit to me?" It's not to say that relationships aren't work, but they also should be with two people who know where they stand with each other and aren't still saying one thing and meaning another.
I don't believe a woman should chase down a man to figure out what does he mean when he said, "I had a great time".... but he didn't call back after six days or we've been together for months, but not in the way I want - "why?" I just believe that part of it shouldn't be so difficult, because the men that want to be with you let it be known.
Love is when you know where you stand with somebody. Every relationship is hard work but there's a mutual give and take, effort on both sides. When the effort is imbalanced, you gotta go for your own sanity and dignity
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