Will Dating Be Much Easier for Me in My Late 30s and 40s? (married, women)
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Dating for guys in their 20s tends to be an absolute nightmare - women our age are getting hit on by everybody from 18 to 80. Standing out in that giant crowd of suitors is borderline impossible - no matter how much I try to dominate my competition (in terms of other men my age).
Am I better off just completely giving up in dating, focusing that much harder on being the absolute best version of myself in every way imaginable - be in great shape, make as much money as possible, travel the world, be very well read, have lots of great hobbies, etc... and then actually trying to date when I'm 35-50?
Maybe I'm wrong but older women seem to be so much more reasonable and easy going when it comes to dating. Even now, older women tend to be very nice towards me and hell, they show more interest in me than girls my age. I've had a couple older ladies who I would have probably dated seriously if I was their age.
I will continue to be ferociously dedicated to things like fitness and a healthy lifestyle and my olive complexion will hopefully allow me to age well - my dad at 40 looked 25 and he is fat - he would be very handsome if he dedicated himself to fitness even now at 55. Surely at 40 years of age, being a pretty decent looking, fit, well off unmarried man with no kids would make me a hugely desirable prospect, no?
The only thing better is life experiences. What Father Time stole from you, it's made up for by the 18 year old high school senior choking on your dust!
Am I better off just completely giving up in dating, focusing that much harder on being the absolute best version of myself in every way imaginable - be in great shape, make as much money as possible, travel the world, be very well read, have lots of great hobbies, etc... and then actually trying to date when I'm 35-50?
If the "best version of yourself" that you envision doesn't include working on your attitude towards women and relationships in general, I'd wager that you'll have it no easier as you get older.
If the "best version of yourself" that you envision doesn't include working on your attitude towards women and relationships in general, I'd wager that you'll have it no easier as you get older.
what's wrong with my attitude towards women and relationships? elaborate
It can get easier as one gets older, but that really depends on one thing- the ability to figure out why some things work and other things don't work in the dating and relationship realm.
Based on your posts, you don't seem to have the self-awareness that is takes to make this happen, so it probably won't get easier for you. If anything, it will get harder as you continue to blame everything else except yourself for you lack of success.
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