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Dating should not be as difficult as some make it.
Whomever asks pays for every other date unless you are really just friends then each pays their own.
However, in our group of friends there is no set rule, if one wants to pay for all they do and the others leave the tip.
Other times everyone pays for their own and leave the tip.
Let's see, women don't typically approach or ask men out.
People in this thread think it should be whoever asked the person out.
Hmmm...I wonder who its going to be ?
A lot of women approach and ask a man out, we are the women who seek and find the man we want and we are not to scared to pursue him or pay for the date.
I always have just because I don't want to be rejected over something so trivial, but I can't help but be bothered. Are men and women equal?? Or are women a prize? Why should the man pay for a woman's company?? Does she not enjoy the company too?? Is it not mutual? If the man pays, is the women obligated to sleep with him?? But wait wouldn't the women be getting something out of that too?? Women enjoy sex too, right?? It's not about money. I could care less about that. It's just the concept. Am I suppose to feel like women are superior to me and I have to earn them??
I'm wondering what women think about guys who don't pay on the first date. Does it make you think he's not interested??
And I'm only talking about the first date. Once you know someone, it doesn't matter who pays in my opinion. I just feel like the first date should always be split. Am I wrong to feel this way? Many people will say to just do a cheap/free first date. That is missing the point though. I want a girl to want to meet me as much as I want to meet her.
All i got to say is that im not going to pay if you order a lot of expensive amount of food, the woman should know that she is not settling herself for the food but for a man that she should be looking forward to living with. Why take a girl our for dinner if she can cook? She should know how to cook instead of having to waste all that cash in your wallet.
I'd actually agree that the first date should be split if the people don't know each other all that well, ie. online dating, met in a bar (as opposed to longterm friends who are finally getting together.) It's just...simpler. Granted, I also think inexpensive dates are great at the beginning because they usually can be cut short with more ease, plus it's about getting to know the person not to do fun stuff.
Then, once you're in a well-established relationship, different paying habits can be sorted out as appropriate to the dynamic. No one right answer there.
I'd actually agree that the first date should be split if the people don't know each other all that well, ie. online dating, met in a bar (as opposed to longterm friends who are finally getting together.) It's just...simpler. Granted, I also think inexpensive dates are great at the beginning because they usually can be cut short with more ease, plus it's about getting to know the person not to do fun stuff.
Then, once you're in a well-established relationship, different paying habits can be sorted out as appropriate to the dynamic. No one right answer there.
I agree on the last part of your post... I'm old school and I'm not gonna let a woman pay for the first couple of dates... just isn't gonna happen.... but if we become an item then like you said things can shift and she can pay for things too, or mix it up, whatever.......
If the date was suggested by me, then I would expect to pay for it. If we suggested it together, then 50-50. If he was the one who initiated it, I'll be ready to pay for my share, but he also better have enough money to cover the entire bill, just in case
Last edited by beweirdess; 09-26-2015 at 09:15 AM..
Not sure how the Dutch got dragged into that saying, but whatever...
Off topic, it's because back in the day the British didn't like the Dutch, so to rag on them they would call paying for yourself the "Dutch treat" "Dutch courage" is needing to be drunk to take action. A "Dutch oven" is a cooking pot, not an appliance. They did the same thing for the French.
On topic, whomever asks should pay generally, but in the world of online dating it's prudent for everyone to not expect to be paid for when you go out with basically a complete stranger.
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