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Because my marriage isn't messed up, I am. My husband remarked he enjoyed my increased energy, self esteem, patience and with him and the children, and independence he noticed recently. He is really happy with me right now. I am going to hold on to the positive things I got from my relationship with the other guy and keep pouring that into my relationship with my husband.
You both did the right thing by getting rid of the pictures, stopping contact, etc. Now, go channel all of your energy and efforts into repairing your marriage. Also, you might want to be extra cautious at avoiding getting into the same situation again in the future; not everyone can handle platonic friendships with the opposite sex (especially if their marriage isn't in a good place), in which case a harmless crush can progress into a full-blown affair (whether emotional or physical, doesn't really mater which) if you're not careful with respecting boundaries.
I've suggested that to hubs in the past. He is profoundly against it. .
Can't imagine why...
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He is extremely devout and sees any extramarital sex as sinful.
Even if he wasnt religious, most dudes aren't down with their wives getting banged by other dudes. I probably would have divorced you for even suggesting it
So what's the deal? He not able to knock it out in bed?
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Because my marriage isn't messed up
Might want to re-think that
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My husband remarked he enjoyed my increased energy, self esteem, patience and with him and the children, and independence he noticed recently. He is really happy with me right now. I am going to hold on to the positive things I got from my relationship with the other guy and keep pouring that into my relationship with my husband.
Because you are having an emotional affair with some other dude... probably thinking of him when you bang your husband too or when you rub one out
I'm married, he's married. We never had sex, we kept away from each other physically but we crossed the line emotionally.
I've blocked him on social media and deleted any pics and messages, but I'm literally torn apart inside. I'm still in love with him. This just happened and I didn't want it to, so that's probably why it is so hard for me.
I was angry and mean to him when he said he needed to back off, so I could give him a reason to write me off easier and move on, if he even cares that is. For all I know he never really loved me like he said, but I want to believe he did. I don't want to be the reason he has problems in his marriage.
I seriously can't breathe, I'm bawling my eyes out and I don't know that this feeling will ever go away. I can't tell anyone, I'm all alone in this.
How do you get over someone who you can't hate?
And husband is not wondering why you cry all the time? He might not be as clueless as you think.
Focus on your family and don't ruin what you have. I would suggest to work on yourself so such a situation does never happen again. Your husband doesn't deserve that.
Even if he wasnt religious, most dudes aren't down with their wives getting banged by other dudes. I probably would have divorced you for even suggesting it
So what's the deal? He not able to knock it out in bed?
Might want to re-think that
Because you are having an emotional affair with some other dude... probably thinking of him when you bang your husband too or when you rub one out
His drive is much lower than mine. I could have sex 2-3 times daily. He has incredible stamina though and when we do have sex it's body shaking mind blowing good. I love sex, he could go without for weeks. I told him that wasn't acceptable for me, and he's stepped it up to 2 or 3 times a week, plus he's agreed that if he doesn't want intercourse he'll accommodate me in other ways, and he rarely turns down head, which I especially like performing.
And husband is not wondering why you cry all the time? He might not be as clueless as you think.
Focus on your family and don't ruin what you have. I would suggest to work on yourself so such a situation does never happen again. Your husband doesn't deserve that.
I won't ever happen again, this other guy has that spot in my heart for life.
Picking the kids up. I have to pull it together for them so they don't know mommy's been crying all day.
You need to give yourself some private time to grieve... get it out. Then recompose yourself for the rest of the day. Trust me... you physically and emotionally need to let it happen.
I actually informed my manager about what is going on (no detail.. but he's a stand up guy). He said that he wouldn't give me trouble if I suddenly had to excuse myself from work for short periods of time. I do still get my work done. I go for walks to clear my mind and gather my thoughts. Sometimes, I stream my thoughts to my journal at my desk and re-read them later. Whatever it takes to get it out.
And husband is not wondering why you cry all the time? He might not be as clueless as you think.
Focus on your family and don't ruin what you have. I would suggest to work on yourself so such a situation does never happen again. Your husband doesn't deserve that.
I told him I was just stressed about other things
I cry when stressed, so he was satisfied with that explanation.
His drive is much lower than mine. I could have sex 2-3 times daily. He has incredible stamina though and when we do have sex it's body shaking mind blowing good. I love sex, he could go without for weeks. I told him that wasn't acceptable for me, and he's stepped it up to 2 or 3 times a week, plus he's agreed that if he doesn't want intercourse he'll accommodate me in other ways, and he rarely turns down head, which I especially like performing.
Ok, so what's the problem then?
Expecting multiple times a day, or even every day from someone who I am guessing is in his 40's may be a ***** much
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