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So after 6 years of marriage and a 7 week old newborn, the wife and I may be splitting. Shes always saying how i never do things right, im a horrible dad, cant hold a job etc. Finally I stood up for myself thurs and said every name under the sun to her. She grabbed me, threw me on the couch and started punching me. I called the cops and now of course her family thinks im the jerk. I got to my boiling point of being made feel worthless(especially after dealing with cancer for 5 years and severe PTSD). Now she has her family all pissed off saying I provoked it. So why am I feeling guilty?
Because our society says men can't be abused by women. Nothing you said justifies her physically abusing you. She may have severe PPD. I did, but I didn't beat anyone. She needs help. You have nothing to feel guilty about. Focus on being a father and let her sort herself out, hopefully with some kind of mental health treatment.
I think its guilt because I called the cops, but she has been so nuts since the baby is born and constantly putting me down that I couldnt take it anymore. Also I feel horrible for the baby. I really dont believe in single parenting.
So do we separate? Divorce? Get marriage counseling? Im not sure what the right thing to so is.
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Originally Posted by April R
Because our society says men can't be abused by women. Nothing you said justifies her physically abusing you. She may have severe PPD. I did, but I didn't beat anyone. She needs help. You have nothing to feel guilty about. Focus on being a father and let her sort herself out, hopefully with some kind of mental health treatment.
Maybe you feel guilt because you still love her despite all the problems. PPD is a real thing and if baby is only 7 weeks old that jumps out as a possible factor in this. Assuming reconciling is an option, maybe her getting help for this will be a big first step.
Oh I did, hence why I feel guilty over what I said. She claims I provoked her, but I friggin had enough.
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No offense, but you sound like the woman in the relationship You sound like a wuss with no backbone.
In all my relationships, if the woman started with bull****, I put her right in her place.
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