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Two years??! Jesus no. I can't get inside that mindset to offer meaningful advice, sorry. We had sex on the first date, and we've been married almost 20 years. I don't dig abstinent guys.
That's interesting. It's not just me who's noticed this, though; there have been studies done on this. Here is an example: ([URL="http://elitedaily.com/dating/length-relationship-first-sex/1045774/"]How Long You Wait, Statistically, Determines How Long You Date[/URL])
An excerpt:
"To gain a more scientifically verifiable answer to whether or not sex early on is detrimental to a relationship, Busby “recruited 2,035 heterosexual individuals who had an average age of 36 and were in their first marriages” and administered them a questionnaire that revolved around relationship satisfaction and stability.
Next, the participants were asked to self-report whether or not they had sex early in their relationship, late in their relationship or waited until marriage.
According to Bryner, “relationships fared better and better the longer a person waited to have sex, up until marriage, with those hitting the sack before a month showing the worst outcomes.”
Statistics showed when compared to the “early” group, those who waited until marriage rated:
1. Relationship stability 22 percent higher.
2. Relationship satisfaction 20 percent higher.
3. Sexual quality 15 percent better.
4. Communication 12 percent better."
I'm by no means an abstinence advocate (obviously), but waiting a bit appears to have something going for it. I know this was a small study, but it's reflecting something.
That's one survey, conducted by a professor at the very conservative BYU, with a limited sample (surveyed only heterosexual married couples, no singles or those in long-term relationships, no same-sex relationships). Not necessarily a reflection of what plays out in the general population.
"Again for women, but not men, having sex early in the scheme of things signified to them that their partner was committed to the relationship. For men, having sex early in the dating period didn’t actually have that same meaning."
Two years??! Jesus no. I can't get inside that mindset to offer meaningful advice, sorry. We had sex on the first date, and we've been married almost 20 years. I don't dig abstinent guys.
Exactly. I wasn't about to wait until I was 31 to have sex with my boyfriend. We had sex on the 5th date. It felt right. Our relationship is going well and he met my mom last week.
I also wonder what other women's data is. Does your dating life generally follow the same pattern regarding how early or late you slept with a man, and how long he stuck around?
Nope, not at all. What has mattered for my own long term relationships is compatibility in many areas, sex only being one of them.
Going into a relationship with a pre-set idea of when sex (or any physical touch) is going to happen would not work for me. It's way too much thought and planning for something that, at the end of the day, is really not all that huge of a deal for me.
Isn't waiting at least 3 months for serious relationships (let's forget 2 years, I agree that was overboard) prudent? Because I have seen men on here say that they'll wait 3 dates even if their only intention is to have sex.
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