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If a guy asks you out for coffee he is probably cheap. Who would start a relationship over coffee?
Drinks/dinner leads to a relationship more often than coffee or Happy Hour.
From my perspective (as a male), a coffee 'date' is not a date in the first place. It's way too casual and, if it goes well, it's a little less natural to continue (at, say, a bar or coffee shop) than if the date began at a restaurant. I would never ask a girl out for coffee and, if she suggests it herself, suggest a meal instead.
Given how many outings are one-and-done, I think the venue (and meal itself) do carry weight. Those who support coffee often do so because it's cheap and offers a quick out (both of which are true). To me, it's counterproductive (think self serving prophecy) to arrange a meeting that is so well suited for failure. Plus, how much time do you save if the alternatives (in my case, dinner) are usually <60 minutes anyway? I actually prefer dinner b/c it sends a more romantic vibe and offers a natural end (after the bill is paid) or transition (drinks/coffee/dessert -- different place) based on how things are going.
Some girls say coffee dates are screening to see whether the guy is worth their time. That's fine -- if I'm not worth their time for a legit date, then they can find a sucker who thinks they're doing him a favor by granting him the privilege of meeting her for coffee.
Now I know what it means yes dissenter that's agreed it is 2015 but when it comes down to dates I'm quite traditional in paying for the dinner/drinks.
It's something that goes down well with women
If you like to spend money on women and that gets you their approval to continue to take them out, good for you. This seems to work well with most women. There are a few girls out there who are happy to contribute to expenses since the very first date and also make the guy feel appreciated. A bit rare specially in western culture but it happens. It goes well with guys too .
I'm wondering if there's a way to tell what a guy really wants by how he asks a woman out for their first date.
If a guy asks you out for coffee/brunch during the day time, he's looking for something more substantial, possibly a relationship.
If a guy asks you out for drinks/dinner on the first date, his first priority is to hook up but if a relationship comes out of it, who is he to say no?
If a guy asks you out for happy hour... I don't know, it could go either way?
This has been my experience so far. I'm sure there are guys who will ask a girl out on their first date to drinks/dinner late at night and want a relationship, but the chances for that probably die down.
Ladies, ever met a guy who asked you out for coffee but was just after the sex?
WTF?? You deserve to stay single until you change your way of thinking. I hope the rest of your life is less complicated.
Poor guys .. can't do it right no matter how they ask.
If you like to spend money on women and that gets you their approval to continue to take them out, good for you. This seems to work well with most women. There are a few girls out there who are happy to contribute to expenses since the very first date and also make the guy feel appreciated. A bit rare specially in western culture but it happens. It goes well with guys too .
Absolutely true and of course it's nice and I would appreciate the offer myself but I feel better in myself if Payed.
Sounds daft and prehistoric I know but that's me
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