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I'm in one now. My boyfriend has a full time job but has taken up a part time job which he works after his regular job, and on weekends. It's frustrating b/c my personal work schedule is already erratic and irregular, and it makes seeing one another and spending time w/each other that much more difficult. It is quite stressful.
However, we are purposeful about spending time together and talking on an almost daily basis.
Unless two people are intent upon keeping their relationship active and healthy, then it won't work. Being purposeful is the key.
My wife works a lot, always has since undergrad. She has a ton of commitments now in her busy career and she works in the study after the kids go down a few nights of the week. I've always been fine with it, when we were younger, I could hang with my buddies and follow my own pursuits. These days, I get time with the kids though she always makes time for the family to spend together. Her schedule is extremely flexible so I told her the other day, "let me know when you can swing a day off and we'll take a cruise out to the Hill Country in my new car" and she was like "sure" so she knows when I've had enough and needs to take a break.
As long as there's some balance and the lazy spouse (me) has some perspective, this can work out just fine.
step one. have a kid.
step two. quit your job.
step 3. apply for welfare
step 4. apply for subsidised housing.
step 5. live at homeless shelter untill subsidised housing accepts you.
step 6. live happily ever after spending every minute togeather
all this can be accomplished in 1-2 years.
A few months ago I went to a networking event. I met a woman there, career oriented and the like. We started talking about relationships. She said her dream relationship was to work with a high level tech guy, and they would sit on the couch together, in the evenings, with their laptops, working late.
I tried to keep a neutral expression while thinking that sounds really awful.
Long hours during tax season are just part of the job of a CPA. Doesn't mean she prioritizes work over love. It means she chose a career she probably has some aptitude for, that offers her job security, and that pays a decent wage. I wouldn't consider an accountant any different than a doctor or journalist or anyone else who works weird hours because that's what the work is. If he wants someone with more regular hours, he should go and find one.
There are very few people who make good salaries and have good careers who haven't sacrificed time or put in long hours at some point. If someone wants 9-5, he needs to date a receptionist, factory worker, or bank teller.
So not true
I cant believe you didn't mention Government workers
I make a good salary without working long hours
If he knew what her occupation was when they started dating, not sure what he's complaining about. And if it's that big a deal to him, he shouldn't marry her.
But anyway, if someone is not around enough for you, you end the relationship and find someone who can give you what you need. Not rocket science.
One of my coworkers fiance is a manager at a local office of a Big Four accounting firm. To say the least, the quality of life is horrible. She is routinely working 50-60 hour weeks in the office, easily 80+ during the two tax seasons. Her salary is respectable for the area ($80k-$90k), but per hour worked, probably makes less than the average staff account in the area. She has the potential to make partner, but their relationship seems strained.
He's said numerous times that he feels like he lives alone during the tax season, she is taking work related calls and emails all hours of the day, every day, etc. He seems unhappy. How would you put up with where your partner works constantly?
I dated people like this and it just never works out in my case
They always seem pissed off tired and unhappy
I never took a job in my life that had long hours
im in IT and its an industry known for long hours but i took a different path
I work 40 hours a week only for a decent wage but my pay is low compare to other people who have bad work life balance
Anyknow who wants to date and wants to have a work life balance do not become a system admin or network technician
I'm in one now. My boyfriend has a full time job but has taken up a part time job which he works after his regular job, and on weekends. It's frustrating b/c my personal work schedule is already erratic and irregular, and it makes seeing one another and spending time w/each other that much more difficult. It is quite stressful.
However, we are purposeful about spending time together and talking on an almost daily basis.
Unless two people are intent upon keeping their relationship active and healthy, then it won't work. Being purposeful is the key.
In the past relationship where we worked all the time, taking advantage of any free time was the only way. I let her answer work related emails and we even cancelled dinners due to last minute calls. Huge compromises and daily communication on the phone.
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