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Everyone likes a guy who's funny but sometimes I don't want wit or sarcasm or jokes, just true feelings and real openness. I don't feel this when a guy is always on ten and joking most of the time.
I have been having an extremely difficult time just having a conversation with a guy recently and I can't figure out what has changed. Communicating has been really hard and lots of joking and sarcasm and I just guess we're not compatible. Its too hard to have a conversation suddenly. Known him five years and never felt like this.
I asked him tonight what is the humor masking. Many times I just want to have a conversation with someone and not feel like I'm at a comedy club. We have lots of conversations that aren't clowning, but it seems like a lot of the time it's just clowning, hardly ever intimate or about true feelings. Maybe this is how people talk normally but it seems to lack substance.
Reminds me of Robin Williams he was always "on" to the point of not appearing to be able to have real conversations with people I don't know for sure as I obviously wasn't around him all the time... I do feel like people who are funny all of the time probably are deflecting some feeling or emotions at times or whatever head shrinker terms applies here...
Everyone likes a guy who's funny but sometimes I don't want wit or sarcasm or jokes, just true feelings and real openness. I don't feel this when a guy is always on ten and joking most of the time.
Does this make any sense?
Makes perfect sense. A guy has to be able to get serious at least some of the time. If the guy is always "on", that is a sign of insecurity or some personal issue.
I know this, because I used to be the guy that was always on, and people hated that I was always so "happy".
Reminds me of Robin Williams he was always "on" to the point of not appearing to be able to have real conversations with people I don't know for sure as I obviously wasn't around him all the time... I do feel like people who are funny all of the time probably are deflecting some feeling or emotions at times or whatever head shrinker terms applies here...
Pretty heavy post man.... pretty brave of you to post this.... I hope you get to a better place, really, bs aside... sometimes life and death stuff gets lost on this forum and we forget about the people under the posts.....
Yes, I've spent many years chasing men who kept things fun, full of energy...and found that most of them have untreated ADD or some kind of emotional unavailability and just can't sustain a relationship.
The guys who are just good humored and in a better place emotionally are already in relationships.
I've now found a quietish fellow who laughs at my jokes. He is a perfect gentleman and fixes things that are broken. I don't have to constantly provide an 'audience' for him, which is fine with me since I'm an introvert myself!
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