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I'm ashamed... well, not ashamed, necessarily -- reluctant, maybe, to admit that I have never dated a girl who I could actually sit down and have a conversation with, on any sort of intellectual level.
Even more confounding, is that it's taken me this long to realize that it is something that I want. So, yes, definitely sexy, so long as she isn't a one-upper or know-it-all.
I do not find it sexy. I find it argumentative. I've been on dates where some nit pick everything you say for the sake of arguing - to appear intelligent. Huge turnoff.
If it's genuine intelligence, without showboating, then it's nice.
I'm ashamed... well, not ashamed, necessarily -- reluctant, maybe, to admit that I have never dated a girl who I could actually sit down and have a conversation with, on any sort of intellectual level.
Even more confounding, is that it's taken me this long to realize that it is something that I want. So, yes, definitely sexy, so long as she isn't a one-upper or know-it-all.
I agree, I find the one-upper to be one of the most annoying personality traits there is.... man or woman... doesn't' matter, hate those types... and there are a couple of regulars here that are some serious one-uppers... LOL.....
Intelligence, yes; but not intelligence alone. Wit and humor need to be added to the mix. I've known some very intelligent people who were dull as butter knives socially.
I agree, I find the one-upper to be one of the most annoying personality traits there is.... man or woman... doesn't' matter, hate those types... and there are a couple of regulars here that are some serious one-uppers... LOL.....
I've lurked here for quite some time before posting, and I've definitely noticed that. Also noticed how many threads are started with someone seeking validation and/or praise (could be for their brains, looks, money, etc), rather than actually seeking relationship advice and discussion.
Book Smarts
Street Smarts
Survival Intelligence / Resourceful
Someone can be book smart but have no common sense at all. I went to school with a girl like that. Very smart, made killer grades, but talking to her, you wouldn't know that. lol
I have always found survival skills / resourceful very attractive. That I would feel more safe/comfortable with.
But i'd love a man with book smarts as well, someone I could learn with. Languages, cultures perhaps. We could learn things from one another, and in a fun light-hearted way. Not a know-it-all obnoxious way. Someone creative. Maybe they like art as well. I am into art myself.
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Yes, I can't have a relationship without it. Why? Because it makes them interesting to be around and it makes them witty. I can talk to them and they will intuitively get the point I am making, I can learn things, I can learn new ways to look at things, new ways to do things....I can trust them to make good decisions, they have the ability to self reflect with an openness of self, someone to bounce ideas off of.... the list is endless.
I think Urban Sasquatch mentioned that a girl said she wanted to lick his brain. Can't tell me that isn't sexy. Foreplay starts with my brain.
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Intelligence, yes; but not intelligence alone. Wit and humor need to be added to the mix. I've known some very intelligent people who were dull as butter knives socially.
I'd venture to say that most people I know that are super smart are dull as butter knives... just as a disclaimer I've always worked with engineer types and as much as I hate to say it, that stereotype about engineers exists for a reason...
I'm one of the exceptions myself.... as I've got wit, charm and charisma... at least as much as my engineering type lizard brain can allow for....
Smart without humor is like having a race car with a flat tire.....
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