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Okay I know how ridiculous this sounds, but if I am really honest I am not too sure what I want myself. I really liked the guy and while I am sure he liked me for the sex part, I don't have a clue whether he would have liked me if sex was not involved. I dont want a relationship but atleast I want to know if I made enough of an impression on him to bother about never getting to see me again, or is it something that doesn't occur to guys?
So you want to be completely self-absorbed and you want to know why he won't feed that?
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Why? This is dumb. If you DID make an impression on him, and he DOES like you, only to get hurt by you telling him to take a hike. WHY would you lift him up by contacting him again, JUST to throw him back down???
Okay I know how ridiculous this sounds, but if I am really honest I am not too sure what I want myself. I really liked the guy and while I am sure he liked me for the sex part, I don't have a clue whether he would have liked me if sex was not involved. I dont want a relationship but atleast I want to know if I made enough of an impression on him to bother about never getting to see me again, or is it something that doesn't occur to guys?
So in other words, you just want validation that you are in fact desirable, except you don't want to be desired by this particular guy? Please just stop.
I would really like some opinions from guys, I met this great guy and for about a week and a half we texted regularly, not a lot but sporadically all through morning and a little more at night, which was basically about hooking up. None of us gave any indication of wanting more. Then we met up one night at a bar, had a few drinks and conversation and went back to his place.He introduced me to his friends, I chatted with them for a while and then had really great sex. So i figured the night went pretty well, everything was light-hearted, fun.I didnt sleep over saying that I had work.He asked me to call when I got home, but i texted which he recieved the next morning and his reply was short, after that we had a few more short conversations, which was obviously different from before but polite. He initiated less. Then after a few days he hinted that maybe we should do it again coz it was great and he loved it, i declined saying maybe it was better as a one time thing. I said goodbye, he ended by saying that he hopes to see me someday. Since then there has been nothing.
My question is if the guy was really into me, he would not have let it go so easy or was he just respecting my wishes? and if I was to contact him again after a while, would that be desperate on my part?
Sounds like you're playing games, trying to coerce this guy to "chase" you, and when he doesn't, you run to a bunch of strangers to find out why.
Yeah, he was respecting your wishes, perhaps so you didn't label him as a "creep". If you like this guy (and clearly you do, seeing as how you took the time to register a screen name and blab about it on a public forum), then call him, and say what you mean, and mean what you say.
So in other words, you just want validation that you are in fact desirable, except you don't want to be desired by this particular guy? Please just stop.
I would really like some opinions from guys, I met this great guy and for about a week and a half we texted regularly, not a lot but sporadically all through morning and a little more at night, which was basically about hooking up. None of us gave any indication of wanting more. Then we met up one night at a bar, had a few drinks and conversation and went back to his place.He introduced me to his friends, I chatted with them for a while and then had really great sex. So i figured the night went pretty well, everything was light-hearted, fun.I didnt sleep over saying that I had work.He asked me to call when I got home, but i texted which he recieved the next morning and his reply was short, after that we had a few more short conversations, which was obviously different from before but polite. He initiated less. Then after a few days he hinted that maybe we should do it again coz it was great and he loved it, i declined saying maybe it was better as a one time thing. I said goodbye, he ended by saying that he hopes to see me someday. Since then there has been nothing.
My question is if the guy was really into me, he would not have let it go so easy or was he just respecting my wishes? and if I was to contact him again after a while, would that be desperate on my part?
It's BS like this that makes me glad I'm not out there in the dating world.
The guy tries to be polite and respect your wishes and he gets questioned.
I bet if he was more aggressive we'd have a new OP asking why are guys aggressive and can't accept a simple "no"
People pls, first, i didn't tell the guy to take a hike, I only stepped back for a while rather than getting caught off guard by feelings,which i didn't expect to happen. To spare him and me from possible drama.
I was very polite and he basically only said we should hook up again so he wasn't that crushed, I wasn't sure i could do just that and he still ended saying that he hopes to see me someday.
I am not sitting here waiting for him to contact me, I understand that part, I was only misled by the 'if a guy really likes you he will make it happen' proverb.
I would contact him again, I am just here trying to figure out if its worth it or am i setting myself up for trouble if I do.
Why don't you just be honest with him instead of all this?
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