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For the ladies out there, would you be in to having a relationship with a man who wanted an old school relationship where:
You stayed home, or volunteered
You did all of the housework, laundry, etc.
You cooked the meals, set and cleared the table, etc.
Took the old fashioned "woman behind the man" role
Assuming that the man took full responsibility providing financially, you were attracted to him, and he was affectionate and loving, etc. Do you think you could be happy in that type of relationship?
Would I be free to pursue my own interests, like writing a novel, etc. Or would I be expected to have his slippers waiting for him every day, not bother him about issues in my life but only listen to him, etc.
I guess what I'm asking is, how much of a narcissist is this guy? Does he expect to always be the center of attention?
I ask because it seems like women can't win in a lot of ways. If you spend too much time and energy on career and work, at the expense of keeping a home, you're not meeting societies expectations. And if your full time job is at home holding everything else together, you're not a complete woman either.
I was wondering if the pendulum had swung the other way. Before women's rights began to equalize, it was a stigma to put a career before the "duties" of a wife. Now it seems to have swung the other way, the term "housewife" has the stigma as a pejorative.
I ask because it seems like women can't win in a lot of ways. If you spend too much time and energy on career and work, and less home keeping a home, you're not meeting societies expectations. And if your full time job is at home holding everything else together, you're not a complete woman either.
Not a "complete woman"?
Honestly, people really need to understand that, in the vast majority of cases, what a woman chooses to do with her life is, in fact, her free choice. There are always going to be people who won't approve of what someone chooses to do with his or her life. The sooner that people learn to take care of their own side of the street rather than worrying about what's happening on someone else's, the better off we all will be.
For the ladies out there, would you be in to having a relationship with a man who wanted an old school relationship where:
You stayed home, or volunteered
You did all of the housework, laundry, etc.
You cooked the meals, set and cleared the table, etc.
Took the old fashioned "woman behind the man" role
Assuming that the man took full responsibility providing financially, you were attracted to him, and he was affectionate and loving, etc. Do you think you could be happy in that type of relationship?
LOL. When I was a young woman, no. I wanted to "experience the world" to learn, grow and do and be my own person.
Now that I have been there, done that sure I would make a trade off, some self sufficiency and independence for some servitude. I always volunteered, did the housework, laundry cook etc. anyway. Now that Im older and wiser I could easily feign being the woman behind the man knowing in actuality I could manipulate him into doing my will. He of course would have to be out of the house at least 9 to 10 hours per day.
Honestly, people really need to understand that, in the vast majority of cases, what a woman chooses to do with her life is, in fact, her free choice. There are always going to be people who won't approve of what someone chooses to do with his or her life. The sooner that people learn to take care of their own side of the street rather than worrying about what's happening on someone else's, the better off we all will be.
This post should be framed.
OP, I've never felt like I "can't win" because of my life choices. Anyone who disagrees with them should mind their own business. I would never judge a woman for choosing to stay at home if they can live on one income. Nor would I judge a man for being a stay at home dad. One of the good things about today's society is that people can make these choices.
For the ladies out there, would you be in to having a relationship with a man who wanted an old school relationship where:
You stayed home, or volunteered
You did all of the housework, laundry, etc.
You cooked the meals, set and cleared the table, etc.
Took the old fashioned "woman behind the man" role
Assuming that the man took full responsibility providing financially, you were attracted to him, and he was affectionate and loving, etc. Do you think you could be happy in that type of relationship?
No. I did it for a time, when my kids were little. And that was fine, but permanently? No way. It is a life very lacking in mental stimulation.
I ask because it seems like women can't win in a lot of ways. If you spend too much time and energy on career and work, at the expense of keeping a home, you're not meeting societies expectations. And if your full time job is at home holding everything else together, you're not a complete woman either.
I was wondering if the pendulum had swung the other way. Before women's rights began to equalize, it was a stigma to put a career before the "duties" of a wife. Now it seems to have swung the other way, the term "housewife" has the stigma as a pejorative.
People are happier once they realize "meeting society's expectations" isn't all that.
For the ladies out there, would you be in to having a relationship with a man who wanted an old school relationship where:
You stayed home, or volunteered
You did all of the housework, laundry, etc.
You cooked the meals, set and cleared the table, etc.
Took the old fashioned "woman behind the man" role
Assuming that the man took full responsibility providing financially, you were attracted to him, and he was affectionate and loving, etc. Do you think you could be happy in that type of relationship?
Is this not 2015 rather than 1965?
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