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When his wife comes home from a hard days work and sees my brother just sitting at home watching television, she goes nuts. She screams: "WHY CAN'T YOU FIND A JOB?"
He spent the entire day calling employers, networking, reading job hunting books, sending out resumes and following up on resumes he sent, but nothing!
My husband sometimes complains that I haven't found a higher paying job than the one I have, despite my consistent ability to find decent work after I was laid off during the recession. Back then I earned as much as he did.
Sure, it was a blow to my ego and self esteem for a long time. Applying for jobs is a dreadful process and I pretty much refuse to do it online anymore. What a waste of time! I'd rather live on less and feel content than go through the time consuming build up and let down of job hunting.
Since I know my husband has a streak of internal discontent, I tend to ignore or deflect it somehow. That's his problem, not mine.
I have no solution for the SIL's poor behavior other than some kind of heartfelt adult response. Plenty of people have lost everything in the past 8 years. They need to regroup and focus on cutting fixed costs. It is hard. It is unpleasant. It sucks.
If they'd make a serious downsizing plan that requires less money, they'd be more comfortable till a new job inevitably comes his way.
When his wife comes home from a hard days work and sees my brother just sitting at home watching television, she goes nuts. She screams: "WHY CAN'T YOU FIND A JOB?"
He spent the entire day calling employers, networking, reading job hunting books, sending out resumes and following up on resumes he sent, but nothing!
I've heard something similar but with SAHM. A husband comes home from work and sees the mother taking a break from a long day of taking care of the children and doing chores in the house. Initial reaction is similar in that he's just getting home for a break from the work day but only finds that his wife has already done so.
He just doesn't realize it... or takes her efforts for granted. Out of sight.. out of mind.
When his wife comes home from a hard days work and sees my brother just sitting at home watching television, she goes nuts. She screams: "WHY CAN'T YOU FIND A JOB?"
He spent the entire day calling employers, networking, reading job hunting books, sending out resumes and following up on resumes he sent, but nothing!
So aside from looking for another job, is he doing anything around the house? Or is she coming home to a disaster area and no dinner on the table?
I think I'd probably lose my **** if I walked in the door and my husband was sitting with his feet up and absolutely nothing got done around the house.
It may have nothing to do with his being jobless, and everything to do with him not pitching in around the house??
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