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She might see something HUGE and he might see a HUGE pair on telly.
Worries in that direction are overrated. For whatever reason (don't try to fathom it, just be grateful that it is this way) most women are unimpressed by sheer size. Even women that have actually been in relationships with huge guys can go on to ... less spectacular specimens, and find happiness. On screen, the big tackle is even less appealing it seems. She will claim with a straight face that she finds only your equipment perfectly suited to her needs. So... return the favor, why not... my SO cannot even fill out an AA cup. She doesn't hold it against me that I don't have a Burmese Python in my reptile house, and I thank G#d everyday for Cloud Storage, so I don't have to keep my Pamela Anderson videos on encrypted directories on my hard drive anymore.
Some problems must be addressed differently than others, and situations vary.
A lot -- and I do mean a LOT of people will dismissively say "Just get divorced." It's an easy answer because for them the situation holds NO amount of consequence whatsoever. These are the very same people who would, given the same answer regarding their own situations, frown and respond "It's not that easy. You don't understand, it's more complicated than that."
Sometimes divorce IS the answer; but it's hardly a flippant, easily-doled answer, or to be taken so lightly, so basically ignore such people.
Eh.
If it, for whatever reason, can't be/isn't going to be remedied, and one or both parties cannot/will not live with such a situation, why NOT terminate the relationship? What is unreasonable about such a decision?
Worries in that direction are overrated. For whatever reason (don't try to fathom it, just be grateful that it is this way) most women are unimpressed by sheer size. Even women that have actually been in relationships with huge guys can go on to ... less spectacular specimens, and find happiness. On screen, the big tackle is even less appealing it seems. She will claim with a straight face that she finds only your equipment perfectly suited to her needs. So... return the favor, why not... my SO cannot even fill out an AA cup. She doesn't hold it against me that I don't have a Burmese Python in my reptile house, and I thank G#d everyday for Cloud Storage, so I don't have to keep my Pamela Anderson videos on encrypted directories on my hard drive anymore.
I'm not a religious man but I thank the Lord also for cloud storage and the " invisible phython "
I've also said ( and tried to sell ) "it's not the size of the ship it's the motion in the ocean "
If it, for whatever reason, can't be/isn't going to be remedied, and one or both parties cannot/will not live with such a situation, why NOT terminate the relationship? What is unreasonable about such a decision?
I applaud Urban Sasquatch for that post because I relate to it 100%.
Keep in mind that Urban Sasquatch never indicated in his post that one or both parties came to the conclusion that "cannot/will not live with such a situation". If one or both reached such a conclusion on their own why would they start a thread? The answer is clear.. divorce.
What is important (and what Urban Sasquatch is referring to) is that when someone starts such a thread seeking advice regarding a sexless marriage they do so without having come to the conclusion that it is unlivable situation. They seek to improve it. No marriage is perfect and seeking advice to improve it is absolutely taking marriage seriously. Posts that hastily recommend divorce should be ignored because it isn't that simple. They do not take marriage seriously. It essentially recommends running away from the marriage rather than putting best effort to improve it.
I've had many relationships.. I've had many sexual partners in my life. My previous relationship was an open one. I've had numerous of people tell me that I'm not the type of person to settle and get married. That I'm not marriage material... that I don't take marriage seriously (much less a monogamous one). That might be true. However.. right now, I'm working on my marriage to improve on a few fronts; one of which is lack of intimacy... sexless marriage if you will. Many have recommended that I separate and divorce. To tell you the truth it is my first inclination.... to run and seek another relationship. Dang it... for once in my life, I'm not going to. If it does end... it will end knowing that I put no less than 100% of myself into it. That I did everything I could to save it. I can live with that.
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