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Originally Posted by goodmockingbird
Aspergers type people aren't for everyone.
Most gals could not be happy with one of them.
But to be loved -- to the extent, and in the way they love -- and most importantly, to be trusted by a high achieving, loyal, and kindhearted "Aspergers type" guy is worth more to some of us than all the hearts and flowers in the world.
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That's pretty astute (quoting something now six months old). Nice to hear from ladies who appreciate us fringers, nerds, whatever mild and slightly-endearing pejorative we'd like to use.
A guy outed himself recently, at a firm I know, as diagnosed Aspergers. I thought that was rather brave of him. I like the guy, and do monitor his deliverables pretty closely. If that is done, he delivers great work, so it's just a little extra effort I don't mind doing as a manager. I think like calls to like. Which got me thinking...
Point being, some of use who (are, may be) on the spectrum do tend to "get it" in terms of guys and the very few women I've met like that. I have this nagging feeling I'm at or over the line, myself, but function well indeed as a leader in our firm. Leadership and socialization skills are learned behaviors, not natural to me. Mimicry is a skill I do well, in addition to learning from past mistakes.
Back on point, this being Relationships, yes ladies who like the quiet smart type do pretty well with those of us on the Spectrum (Speccies?). Emotional women figure me out, and take off eventually when it's clear not much of that will ever be reciprocated. What they would, could, or did ever think that way to begin with is totally beyond me. Which is the point of the thread...
"Love" is a weird concept to most of us, but loyalty (above all else), integrity, and smarts are not. Agreed 100%. We sure aren't for everyone.