Men: If you met an amazing woman but she worked at some very low-end job would you care?

[TabulaRasa]

Originally Posted by orangeapple

I agree with this.

A friend of mine is a single mom and has not been able to continue her higher education because of it. She works as an aide in a special ed classroom. I would say she fits the OP's criteria of being gorgeous, smart, etc. She supports her kids with little help from her family and zero support from her ex-husband. I think she has desire to do something else (I think she leaned towards psychology, probably would've been a teacher though), but right now, she gets by financially and the schedule is great for her kids.

Her job pays a few bucks above minimum wage, but it requires oodles of compassion and emotional intelligence. It is far more demanding mentally/emotionally than a job flipping burgers, IMO.

I have yet to meet a person who does a retail/food service job that is not in HS/college, semi-retired, or just working a part-time job for extra cash (ie. a part time SAHM). In CA, it is not even possible to support yourself with such work.

I dated a guy in my twenties who was vehement that he'd never date a teacher, because "they'll never be able to pay back their student loans on that kind of salary."

[NWGirl74]

Originally Posted by orangeapple

A friend of mine is a single mom and has not been able to continue her higher education because of it. She works as an aide in a special ed classroom. I would say she fits the OP's criteria of being gorgeous, smart, etc. She supports her kids with little help from her family and zero support from her ex-husband. I think she has desire to do something else (I think she leaned towards psychology, probably would've been a teacher though), but right now, she gets by financially and the schedule is great for her kids.

Which makes her different from the OP's example, in which the woman in question is content to flip burgers for the rest of her working life.

Originally Posted by GeoffD

I prefer relationships with women who are my intellectual equal. After a few weeks in the sack, I'd be really bored with Miss Burger. I'm quite affluent so I don't pay much attention to income stream but I need somebody who has some neurons firing and is engaged with their life.

But according to the OP, this burger flipper is highly intelligent.

[Londoncowboy30]

Originally Posted by TabulaRasa

I dated a guy in my twenties who was vehement that he'd never date a teacher, because "they'll never be able to pay back their student loans on that kind of salary."

He's sounds a great and cheerful bloke LOL

Originally Posted by NWGirl74

Which makes her different from the OP's example, in which the woman in question is content to flip burgers for the rest of her working life.



But according to the OP, this burger flipper is highly intelligent.

In fairness it's an art form to flip burgers

[orangeapple]

Originally Posted by NWGirl74

Which makes her different from the OP's example, in which the woman in question is content to flip burgers for the rest of her working life.

I wouldn't say my friend is not content though. I would say that she accepts life circumstances pretty well and is not caught up in status. She is not making effort to further her "career" either. Arguably she is set on doing this for some time, given her kids are still pretty young.

I agree with most people that the woman in the OP doesn't exist, as far as not desiring something else.
But I think the larger idea of job snobbery and making assumptions about people based on their work still applies.

A lot of people are conveniently avoiding discussion of women in low-paying jobs that do not require higher education, but are not retail/food service jobs. Is it a matter of income and education required or is the type of work the issue?