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I'm 23 and haven't been on any kind of date since July 2014. My biggest problem is that I don't really have any way of meeting women.. I work in a field that is mostly men. I have a few friends I hang out with regularly but I don't meet girls through them. Other than that most of my hobbies are solitary, video games, reading, playing bass etc. I go to concerts sometimes too but rarely talk to people there.
I've tried both Tinder and OKcupid but it is very rare that anyone responds to my messages. Any advice?
Why is that? When I was a little older than you, that's almost exclusively how I met women. I always found it easy to strike up a conversation, much easier than doing cold approaches or supermarkets. You know you have at least one shared interest, seeing who is performing. Not sure what kind of music you're into and I see you are in N. Virginia (close to D.C.?) When I go to shows at several venues there are a lot of women in your age range. OKC worked great for me, however I doubt I would have had a much success in my twenties as I do know.
Location: Huntersville/Charlotte, NC and Washington, DC
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Why is that? When I was a little older than you, that's almost exclusively how I met women. I always found it easy to strike up a conversation, much easier than doing cold approaches or supermarkets. You know you have at least one shared interest, seeing who is performing. Not sure what kind of music you're into and I see you are in N. Virginia (close to D.C.?) When I go to shows at several venues there are a lot of women in your age range. OKC worked great for me, however I doubt I would have had a much success in my twenties as I do know.
In particular, the EDM scene in DC and NoVA is one of the best places to meet new people I've ever encountered. Especially if you can tailgate, I've never felt more comfortable going up to folks and saying what up.
You don't have a supermarket or bar near you? It's a numbers game man, you gotta be where the chicks are. Yet going to country music shows, chicks love that crap.
I hear what this guy is saying, but I think if it were me, I'd ask myself; What are the group activities I like or want to do most? They I'd start doing them, I'd find groups of people also interested. You would probably make friends, and if there aren't any attractive ladies, then in discussion you could see if the new friends, have a suitable friend/relative to set you up with. If you are an interesting, and affable person, you will be set up with some dates.
When I was your age, many years ago before the advent of online dating, I had many problems as well. I was working at the family business so it was difficult if not impossible to know a persons true feeling or agenda. I met a few nice women in a self improvement group I was in. My best luck was when I put an ad in the newspaper and got loads of dates, unfortunately I picked the wrong woman. After my divorce and recovery I started using Match, POF and Yahoo and although I didn't meet the right one at least I had some dates and felt better about myself. Eventually I joined eHarmony and met my wonderful wife and I have been happily married for 4+ years. My advice is to try a few dating sites which will at least get you out of your rut and back in the game.
In particular, the EDM scene in DC and NoVA is one of the best places to meet new people I've ever encountered. Especially if you can tailgate, I've never felt more comfortable going up to folks and saying what up.
I've heard this from some of my younger co-workers too who have had good success.
I'm 23 and haven't been on any kind of date since July 2014. My biggest problem is that I don't really have any way of meeting women.. I work in a field that is mostly men. I have a few friends I hang out with regularly but I don't meet girls through them. Other than that most of my hobbies are solitary, video games, reading, playing bass etc. I go to concerts sometimes too but rarely talk to people there.
I've tried both Tinder and OKcupid but it is very rare that anyone responds to my messages. Any advice?
You gotta get out of the house more. They won't come ringing on your doorbell.
meetup.com is perfect for your age group.
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